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[Wendy65]

Hi all,

Has anyone else had a massive loss of confidence at work?

I feel rubbish, not able to cope and useless. Went in to work last week and burst  into tears.

I can't stand the thought I feeling like this for years. Wobbly legs, nervy and anxious. Backache from hell and I was sick this week. Very unusual for me as I usually have a very strong stomach. Can't remember the last time I slept through the night.

I've upped my estradiol to 2 mg in  the hope I will feel better.

Moaning over.

Wendy65

[Annie0710]

Yes I gave up my bookkeeping job because of what you describe.  I loved that job before hormones (well lack of) took over , one morning I had a meltdown getting ready for work and my partner just said to hand my notice in so I did.  I took 5 months out then started looking again.  Another job in bookkeeping for a tyrant and I worked with his wife, he had an affair with an employee and I was the shoulder for his wife, they made up and the stress got to me and one morning I went in to an empty office (wife was lazy) and I just put my coat on and walked back out.  I've been in this latest job nearly 2 years and am coping much better

Just a thought but I was on 2mg oestrogen and I switched to patch as a trial and I've been on it ever since.  It might be worth you trying it as I think the patch delivers more oestrogen x

[Wendy65]

Hi, thanks for the reply. Yes, I am thinking of switching to a patch or gel as it seems a common theme that the tablets are not absorbed so well.

I really appreciated your reply.

Wendy65

[Annie0710]

You're very welcome Wendy

I know everyone's finances are different and personally we are in the category of 'only 3 paychecks away from homelessness' our emotional state is also very important.  There is life after a certain job and so far I've always been ok finding a new one x

[Babsm67]

Hi, I started feeling like this at work two years ago - I just didn't feel like 'myself' anymore as my hormones started to go haywire (I had loved my job but changes in leadership created an atmosphere of tension & fear as heads began to roll).  I broke down in tears one lunchtime &, to cut a long story short, quit in spring 2015.  Earlier this year, I decided to try returning to my o!d profession (TA) as a temp until the summer but realised that my heart wasn't in it anymore.  As a result, I have started a new job as a 'bank' Carer (I have cared for children & young adults with disabilities in the past).  After an initial hiccup during the admin training, when I became horrendously anxious & backed out, my employers were extremely understanding & let me try again.  I am now looking forward to going in tomorrow & seeing the residents after doing two shifts last week.  No weekend or Bank holiday working either.  It is very early days but I already feel a lot happier (and the shifts can be fitted in around being with my autistic son who attends college part time & can be swopped during the college holidays).  I have also started AD's & anti anxiety meds in the last week which are a!ready looking promising so that I am starting to feel something like my 'old' self. X

[CLKD]

Well Done MadBloss!  Anticipatory anxiety can be a killer  .

Welcome Wendy!

[Babsm67]

Thanks CLKD - yes, it's the 'What if's...' I've always been terrible for that but I feel, this time, that it is the start of something positive!  X

[Elizabethrose]

Well done and congratulations MadBloss, I'm delighted for you. All good wishes to you x

[peri]

Hi Wendy65 et al.  I've managed my stress at work since I became peri menopausal and all that entails by working part time (2 1/2 days). However just recently anxiety has been massively ramped up due to announcement of redundancies due to budget deficit (I work for local council).  Rumour is they're going to delete our posts and create new ones with more responsibility but on a lower grade. Worst of all there will be a third less of the new posts so we will all be competing against each other.  It's all been very demoralizing and I'm veering between fighting for my job and just throwing in the towel and taking redundancy on a daily basis.   

[Wendy65]

Hi Peri,

I work for a local council also. I worked part time up to September last year. My husband has suffered from depression so he went part time and I went full time and to a job with more responsibility. I'm beginning to think I have made a huge mistake. My manager is very supportive luckily and says I and doing a fantastic job. I think I am doing rubbish and sometimes feel unable to cope. I still have a moody teenager at home and I have developed awful backache and I'm waiting for a scan for this. My doc said he thinks it's degenerative and I've got to live with it.

All in all lots to deal with but this forum is helping and I have realised that I need to do all I can to look after myself.

Wendy65

[Tempest]

Madbloss, that is BRILLIANT! Well done, you!!

[Meg]

Dear Madbloss could you tell us what medication you are on for anxiety.  I was wondering if there is anything apart from antidepressants which I doctor might prescribe.  Thanks for sharing and glad you are feeling a bit better.

Meg

[Hurdity]

Hi Wendy Do you have to take progestogens as well? If you've had a hysterectomy or have a Mirena coil so don't need to take progestogens, then I would definitely think about a patch or gel to give you a more consistent dose directly into your system without having to be digested or go through the liver.

MadBloss - great news as I was following your story and trials and tribulations with the TA job and other jobs you tried! Hope you continue to go from strength to strength

Hurdity x

[Babsm67]

Thanks, Hurdity - I am starting to feel 'normal' again.  I know, realistically, I won't feel like I did at 35 but, already, I have started to get my housework done by the weekend & that alone is significant! Xx

Hi Meg, sorry I didn't answer earlier - I only saw the rest of the thread this morning - I am taking a very small amount of diazapam.  It was 2.5 mg per day for a week when I started the AD's but I am now breaking a third off the tab!et to taper off as diazapam is best used short term.  I'll PM you xx