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[Bev1]

Feel like lifes passing me by because i cant be bothered with a social life, im shattered by 8pm and just want to go to bed, i see my friends going out and having a good time and wish i had the energy, does anyone else feel this way?

[Dandelion]

yeah, I hate leaving the flat. I hate places with lots of people, I get anxious, upset or annoyed, but I have borderline personality disorder and cptsd

[walking the dog]

I'm the same I have missed so many nights out etc as anxiety reared its ugly head and prevented me leaving the house 😐

[babyjane]

I used to be like this but I have had several months of successful treatment for an anxiety disorder that is not totally menopause related.

We have had a short notice invitation for tomorrow which I have accepted.  It will be a good test, no time to think of all the 'what ifs' and talk myself out of it.  Time to put my treatment to the test before we go on holiday in 2 weeks time.

[Ju Ju]

I just get so tired, that I no longer go out in the evening very often. There is an organised walk on the nearby down to see bats tonight. I would really like to go, but I'm shattered. If I did go I would pay for it tomorrow. I used to belong to the local amateur dramatic group, but haven't the energy to go now. They keep asking me back, but......and learning lines is beyond me now!

[Tempest]

Oh blimey, yes! I haven't been out after 6pm since this whole menopause business started. I was never a party animal before, but I did enjoy going out for evening meals and going to concerts. Now I'm in my PJ's straight after tea time (if not before)!

[CLKD]

Good Luck Babyjane  - ……….. we did the dinner parties, picnics, beach BarBQs when we were first married, it was the 'done' thing in the 1970s  .  When we moved here I didn't bother getting to know many people because I had been let down by 'friends', we got busy doing stuff: folk clubs almost every night of the week, walking, shopping ……. then I had a few years when I was unable to do anything like that.  Now we go out to antique shops, country fairs, as long as I take grub with me and keep hydrated, as long as I know where the car is parked ……….

This too will pass.  Do take time for you, enjoy what is possible now.  Remember that in Syria they don't have a choice  - at least we have a roof over our heads and when I feel really bad, I either sleep or sit by our ponds. 

[Maryjane]

My get up and go , has got up and gone.

Or as my MIL used to say " I need rubbing out , and drawing again "

[Annie0710]

My menopausal social anxiety is stopping me socialising too, I'm determined to beat this beast

Annie x

[CLKD]

I managed to be out and about this morning with Himself, all the while thinking about the anxiety which was fluttering around  .  I am absolutely shattered now 

[walking the dog]

My anxiety is very bad these past few days, I was stuck in my bedroom for three hours earlier in the week!

[CLKD]

It's awful ain't it  - did the dogs cuddle up?

[walking the dog]

Yes their normally ok if in bedroom with me as tend to lie on bed with me and they sleep which is lovely and peaceful

[babyjane]

we had a good morning  .  Not what was originally planned but as we were in the mindset for going out we went out anyway and chatted to quite a few people.

It's getting easier if I don't think about it for too long or start the 'what ifs'.

Holiday and motorway travel will be a challenge.  I keep trying to remind myself that these things didn't used to bother me and nothing has changed apart from me.

Can't thank my hubby enough for sticking with me and walking through it all with me, bless him 

[CLKD]

I hate having to plan too far ahead  - it does depend on the venue, weather, how far from home we are