The problem I have now is getting the stool out, regardless of consistency. The IBS was a contribution to this problem, but is not what is causing this problem now. I realised that there was was physical problem after following good advice from the bowel consultant. It was thought that the rectocele was the cause, which made sense, but now repaired and healed, the problem continues. It is being taken seriously. I am awaiting the results of the MRI.
At least these days there is more help in managing IBS symptoms. Years back, it was check there was no sinister reason for symptoms, then being sent on my way with no advice, just that it is 'only' IBS.
I am fortunate to have a DH who is very understanding and accommodating, particularly since I put embarrassment aside and explained what was going on. But travelling was a worry this year, as going to the loo can take ages and sometimes, I have to go back and forth. We did a lot of driving, 2000 miles, staying in hotels and booking ahead. DH left that to me so I made sure my needs were met. But I did it and coped. I do find saying I have IBS issues if need be, without going into any details, helps. It is surprising how many people have approached me with similar problems. We are not alone!
Oh by the way, when I had the accident, I went home, sorted myself out and rang to say I had had problems on the way. I arranged a new time and got the job!