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[Tempest]

Hi! This is probably not the right place for this post, but I've decided to leave MM after being a member for only a short while, and I'm going to explain why.

Firstly, I'd like to say a huge thank you to Hurdity and Dancinggirl who have been wonderfully helpful. Thank you! And thank you to lots of other ladies who have said very kind words of support.

Thing is, I'm finding that reading about menopause issues and constantly fretting about my HRT is making  my anxiety much, much worse. I actually had a huge meltdown about it last night and Hubby said I was doing better, then have got more anxious as I constantly keep second guessing whether I'm doing everything 'right'. I have a lot at stake as a few of you may know as I really need to be on HRT as I'm in surgical menopause after my oopherectomy aged 46.

As soon as hubby and I had this chat and I realised that it was ME constantly second guessing everything and not the HRT that was 'ramping me up', I actually started to feel much better.

I'm going to go for my blood tests to check my levels as planned next week, and then work with my Consultant at the menopause clinic from there. She has 12 years of helping ladies in my position, so I need to trust her and work with her. I hope I will get there in the end and start feeling more well!

And just a wee note to the person who called me out for being 'blasphemous' in my thread title last night. It couldn't have come at a worse time! I was feeling very 'raw' last night after my GP appointment yesterday as I was very stressed about requesting my blood tests. The title of my thread was in no way intended to be blasphemous, as far as 'taking the Lords name in vain', I don't think so. I was truly desperate. I'm a baptised Christian too. Trust me, Jesus doesn't mind when one of his flock is suffering if they call out to Him in desperation. This kind of pontificating is what puts people off Christianity, and why people are leaving/not joining the church.

Thank you again to everyone else, and I really most sincerely wish you all the very best in your menopause journeys and hope that you all find health, peace of mind and happiness.

Hugs,

Tempest xxx

[ancient runner]

Best of luck and hope things settle soon Tempest.

[Keepgoing]

Take care hope you get yourself sorted xxx

[Kathleen]

Hello Tempest.

I completely understand your reasons for leaving. Other ladies have said that constantly fretting about the menopause can be depressing, infact my husband refers to MM as 'misery memoirs' and he has a point!

I wish you well on your journey and feel free to call in any time you're passing.

Take care.

K.

[peegeetip]

Dont let others get the better of you.

Just leave the account for a while. Don't delete it

Get someone to reset your password and keep it somewhere safe if you cant help slipping back.

 

[Joyce]

Please take care of you, that's  the most important thing. If you decide at a later date, when you feel you can, come back & let us know how you're doing. In the meantime I wish you well on your Meno journey.

[Lizab]

Best of luck, Tempest! I hope you are quickly feeling well and never need to return to the forum, but if you do need support in the future, we'll be here for you.

[Dyan]

All the best Tempest X

[babyjane]

Goodbye Tempest, I totally understand your reasoning but if we can ever help we will still be here.

[Hola Lolly]

Hello Tempest

I understand how you feel today too.  I used to get quite panicky when reading about health issues in The Daily Mail website. Serves me right for reading such nonsense anyway.
If it wasn't for this forum and all the fantastic women who share their experiences I think I'd be locked in a padded cell by now.  I've learned more on here than from any medical professional, and most of the time it's all fantastically reassuring.
Your anxiety is sky high at present, but it will get better and hopefully then you'll come back and let us know how you are. 

Thinking of you xx

[MIS71MUM]

All the best Tempest.

Good luck x

[Justjules]

Tempest, wishing you all the best in your quest for health. I am sure it is a positive step you are taking but just reiterate what the other ladies are saying, that we will all still be here if you need us ever again. Take care x

[Miss Lemon]

God bless, Tempest. I hope you start to feel well again soon. Xx

This is a reminder of Ghandi's advice to 'be kind as everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle'. I'm sad that Tempest has left because she feels hurt.

[booboo]

All the best Tempest..
I can relate to what you say - sometimes I find I  can read/have too much information and I think/feel it fuels my anxiety, so I try to avoid some things... I also find when I have  felt anxious and also sensitive, its easy for some things to become bigger in  my mind - it can feel like a real battle...
Take care - am sure you are doing the right thing for you..

[booboo]

I have become a compulsive worrier too & find life has become far for more stressful - its not helped by constantly fearing unintentionally offending someone .. I tend to have sense of humour ( maybe a bit a warped or dark ) In some peoples eyes - but its never meant to offend - sadly we seem to live in a world now where we have to be constantly conscious of what we say, & I guess these forums can affect some people & not in a positive way..