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[rebecca]

There was a good article about this in the Weekend section of The Times Saturday 27th February. This includes an article in Body + Soul section headed  'Beat the Midlife Blues - the expert's guide' ..
In the article it states that everyone agrees that life improves after 60. So long as you have kept in reasonable shape and put enough money aside to live in some comfort, people seem to slip into their mid sixties without too much drama, making between 65 and 75 the happiest years of your life (I look forward to that I hope that is true!).... As I approach the end of my fifties, I could relate to a few comments
in this article though... Anyone else read it?

Rebecca

[babyjane]

no but it sounds interesting.  I have one more year until I reach my 60s and I am sincerely hoping things will improve as my 40s and 50s have not been particularly good.

[Pennyfarthing]

no but it sounds interesting.  I have one more year until I reach my 60s and I am sincerely hoping things will improve as my 40s and 50s have not been particularly good.

In years gone by babyjane you would have looked forward to getting your state pension when you were 60.  Now you'll be 66 before you see any of it!!

[Dancinggirl]

There was a feature on the news not long ago that actually contradicted what this article is saying.  I do think it will depend on health and financial status but I would certainly say that my early 30s were my best years.  I have just turned 60 and though I am not in bad health and we get by financially, without HRT my life is far more challenging and if I had to stop HRT in my mid 60s I know my quality of life would drop. Even if we stick to a good lifestyle and look after our health, luck has a big part to play - I'm afraid I have too many friends in my generation who have stayed fit and active, not smoked and drunk too much but they have developed cancer or heart conditions. For many of us our financial status will largely depend on the economy and the stock market.  I try not to look forward but be grateful for every day I feel OK right here and now - a hundred years ago we were lucky to get to 50.
When women ask how long it will be before their meno symptoms get better because they don't want use HRT, I would always say don't expect the symptoms to improve any time soon - get treatment now and enjoy life right now.  Having said all this, I really hope life does get better in my late 60s - it's a nice thought. DG x

[dahliagirl]

I quite liked my 40s    Not sure I want to wait for my 60s.

I am hoping my 50s will improve, once I get out from under the pile of stuff I seem to be under at the moment ......   Or maybe I will just have to get on with life under the pile - it could be worse 

[Pennyfarthing]

There was a feature on the news not long ago that actually contradicted what this article is saying.  I do think it will depend on health and financial status but I would certainly say that my early 30s were my best years.  I have just turned 60 and though I am not in bad health and we get by financially, without HRT my life is far more challenging and if I had to stop HRT in my mid 60s I know my quality of life would drop. Even if we stick to a good lifestyle and look after our health, luck has a big part to play - I'm afraid I have too many friends in my generation who have stayed fit and active, not smoked and drunk too much but they have developed cancer or heart conditions. For many of us our financial status will largely depend on the economy and the stock market.  I try not to look forward but be grateful for every day I feel OK right here and now - a hundred years ago we were lucky to get to 50.
When women ask how long it will be before their meno symptoms get better because they don't want use HRT, I would always say don't expect the symptoms to improve any time soon - get treatment now and enjoy life right now.  Having said all this, I really hope life does get better in my late 60s - it's a nice thought. DG x

I like my thirties too! My children were small, I was healthy and fit, I had a job I loved, my parents were still fit and healthy and life was pretty good. 

A few months ago the HRT nurse put me on a different HRT with lower dosage and it's not suiting me as well as the previous one.  I am boiling hot most nights in bed despite it being cold weather and I feel quite tired and some days I feel an ache her and there.

[Justjules]

Gosh, I am banking on my 60s being the better years because my 50s have been a nightmare....my Mum has a better life than me and she's got COPD and is 84 and just gets on with things - although she was bad during her menopause.

[CLKD]

I had illness throughout my Life, mainly anxiety related  …….. I can report though that since mid-January I have had no anxiety ……….. waiting to see if the next few weeks will trigger it.  DH told me as we walked on Tuesday "I really like how we are living at the moment"  .

Age is a number - it depends on how financially fit we are, whether we are caring for younger/older generation, how well we feel ……….. 

Live in the now?

[babyjane]

In years gone by babyjane you would have looked forward to getting your state pension when you were 60.  Now you'll be 66 before you see any of it!!

Yes I know :-)

I can report though that since mid-January I have had no anxiety ………..

that's good to hear :-)

[CLKD]

  ……. I had my first panic attack at the age of 3 so it's been a constant throughout my Life 

Have been trying to think what my favourite age was  - probably my 20s 'cos that's when I fell in love  and didn't know how badly the anxiety was going to affect both of us.

[CLKD]

It is said that after 90 humans go 'down' hill 

I think that support helps how we feel too.  Good health and dental care, family support, friendships that endure …….. ?

[Dulciana]

It is said that after 90 humans go 'down' hill   

Well, my Dad still manages, at 90, CLKD.   He's rather wobbly without his stick and I'm often having to fill in a missing word when he forgets one, but he still plans ahead and loves socialising.  He's certainly not thinking "downhill" yet, despite appearances.   

As for me, I have to say I'm really enjoying my 50's - I count myself incredibly lucky to be enjoying a whole new phase of my musical career.   I'd never have believed it possible when I was in my 40's and I just wish my Mum could have seen it.

The challenge is, though, that I get all this adrenaline, mixed with all that meno-sleeplessness, e.g. this morning.  My eyes want to shut, while my body wants to get going.         Then that's garnished with a nice little dash of meno-introspectiveness after doing what I see as stupid things.   I find it all too easy to feel guilty about perceived mistakes these days, and that's almost more exhausting than lost sleep!    Midlife blues indeed! 

[babyjane]

……. I had my first panic attack at the age of 3 so it's been a constant throughout my Life 

I probably did too as that is when my mother left me for 3 weeks, but I can't remember