Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Advanced search  

News:

Menopause Matters magazine ISSUE 81 out now. (Autumn issue, September 2025)

media

Author Topic: Expecting too much?  (Read 4078 times)

Justjules

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 682
Expecting too much?
« on: February 26, 2016, 11:48:17 AM »

Felt a bit more able to cope this last couple of days. Went to see therapist and so was determined to try and just get on with things. This morning got up and thought I would tackle the house. Have done some hoovering, wiped down some cupboards and was just finishing some cleaning but then felt dreadfully knackered and so panicked and sat down thinking, "thTs it, it's definitely my heart as why M I so worn out so quick" ....I panic to the point of thinking I need to go to a&e in. A&e in case it's a sign of an imminent heart attack. Do you think it's just that because I've been so bad this last few weeks it's just me expecting too much too soon? I am scared to do any more now Nd so the cycle of worry will continue to grow again....grrrrr




Logged

Dulciana

  • Guest
Re: Expecting too much?
« Reply #1 on: February 26, 2016, 12:16:05 PM »

Justjules, I find I can't do as much all in one go as I used to and that I need to pace myself more.  It strikes me that you've tried to several very physical activities without having a break.  I have a feeling I'd be the same if I tried to do that - not so much that I can't do whatever it is, just not all in one go.  Just a thought............... :-\
Logged

Justjules

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 682
Re: Expecting too much?
« Reply #2 on: February 26, 2016, 12:29:25 PM »

That's what I am hoping....this time last year I used to do all the housework in the morning and then go out for some lunch and cook tea....what's gone wrong in a year apart from bloomin health anxiety and constant fear and constant chest pain/discomfort. I am only 59 and my friends aren't like this! I need to pluck up the courage crime deep down somewhere to go and see cardiologist I think but I am terrified of the tests and results but I don't think I will be able to accept that it's not angina unless I get tested yet Dr said ECG is fine but then others say it doesn't show up those sort of problems. I think I am just bodily worn out with my mind being in a constant whurr of panic.
Logged

coldethyl

  • Guest
Re: Expecting too much?
« Reply #3 on: February 26, 2016, 02:12:15 PM »

I find I get more hot and bothered and achey doing stuff. Some of it is my fibromyalgia and some of it is expectation I think. I know whenever  I do stuff I'm thinking " I hope this doesn't give me chest pain, raise my blood pressure etc etc ." And I hyperventilate because I'm worrying so that gives me more pains etc. I figure that if I can go on my exercise bike for half an hr and not keel over I'm ok, and the fact it goes away when I stop thinking about it.
I think your GP is thinking that referring you for further tests isn't only unnecessary but will just feed into your health anxiety, and really unless you have an angiogram which is dangerous and can cause serious heart issues/ death you won't ever be sure ( and I don't think even then) as you could have stress test today and be ok bit still have heart attack tomorrow.
Being stressed is hard on the body and makes everything much more physically draining so try and relax and just breathe. Remember that anyone who hasn't been active for a while starts up again they would feel achey, tense, unfit , breathless etc. x
Logged

CLKD

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 78903
  • changes can be scary, even when we want them
Re: Expecting too much?
« Reply #4 on: February 26, 2016, 04:03:43 PM »

You feel better so do too much - learn to pace yourself!  if by now you haven't had a heart attack, it's unlikely that you will be affected.  When my OCD begins to take over I make a list of when I should be hand washing as well as when I do it too often and tick off how often.  That concentrates my brain on the habit and I find it relaxes me.

Anxiety can be draining.  When I've had panic attacks I sleep for several days after.   :sigh:

How do you feel now?
Logged

Justjules

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 682
Re: Expecting too much?
« Reply #5 on: February 26, 2016, 05:00:45 PM »

Still worried but grabbed a sandwich at lunch and now it's stuck so causing some discomfort.

Sparkle, had a clear ECG last August in a&e.

Will just pace myself a bit. X
Logged

CLKD

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 78903
  • changes can be scary, even when we want them
Re: Expecting too much?
« Reply #6 on: February 26, 2016, 06:24:05 PM »

Food doesn't get 'stuck'.  If one swallows food too fast then wind goes down too  :o ……. the food continues on it's journey but leaves a feeling of 'bruising' ………. of fullness. 

Learn to pace yourself, whether it's eating, working, exercise - however, no need to pace yourself with the amount of rest you take  ;)
Logged