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[Ms Saucy]

Well-done you.....
Awesome beginning on a journey to getting well. You can get there with small or slightly bigger steps. I eat a snack before bed, helps with shaky mornings.
Lots of hugs Mrs S xx

[babyjane]

well done, it is good to hear you a little more upbeat.  You have a good friend in your sister, wish I had one x

[Mandz]

Hi all....

Thank you all for your well wishes

Sparkle : it is funny how things fall into place at times, I keep thinking and amazed how Monday mapped out. I only persevered because I'm so desperate to be me again. I'm still not able to be seen out and about in my area.......Where I live(although it's a town) everyone knows everyone! .... And I don't want to have to explain why I'm off work---and I'd probably burst out crying, because it's there all the time!

Babyjane: sister has been very supportive, more than I'd ever dreamed of, we haven't always been this way,,,,,,we are VERY different! But.... She was there when I needed her most....and that counts for a lot!

Through all this though.....couple of friends who I thought would be there for me....haven't, but well I suppose we can't always predict how folk will be

Love m xxx

[Lizab]

That's fantastic, Mandz! I'm glad to hear you're getting support.

It is funny how the support comes from where you least expect it, and where you do expect it there's nothing. My own mother has been most hurtful to me in dealing with this. But my best friend's mother, who has always been cold to me, has been super. I've known her longer than I've known her daughter, and she was always kind of a witch. But now I think she was probably going through menopause most of the time I've known her.

Let us know how your appointment goes!

[Mandz]

Hi,

Lizab: my mum has tried to be supportive in her own way, she phones and offers what help she can, I know she struggles to understand it all.... And I accept that! But my friend and her mum have been just amazing, they are the for me, true angels to me, and I really don't know what I'd do without them, and what makes them more amazing is that her mum is coping with aged parents,( her dad was told yesterday he has a tumour in his bladder) , my friend had a mastectomy last year( I was devestated for her)  ...... These are the ones that I've spoken about in earlier post.... I'll never be able to repay their love n support xxx

Today I thought I'd go to the bank in high street......got in car, half way there I crumbled, anyway I did get there with my friend(above friend).... And home safe n sound even though I'm teary xxx

Docs tomorrow xxx

[Justjules]

What a difference it can make when you get the right support and help. Glad to hear that everything is going the right way for you Mandz.

JJ x

[CLKD]

Make a note to take with you!

[panda123]

Great news that things are moving in a positive direction 

Panda x

[coldethyl]

well done. You are trying. I ended up at our primary care tonight as had a rotten night and afternoon with the hot sweats and my anxiety was through roof by this evening, manifesting as chest pain and arm pain. Everything ok but I feel I've gone one step forward and two back as I was coping. Went into bathroom there and I am bleeding again less than a week after last cycle so guessing that is what set this all off. Just wish it was like a broken arm or sore throat and you knew how long you had to suffer.
Keep at it- I'm telling myself it will pass and every step forward is a step away from all the meno rubbish. x

[Mandz]

Thank u all....yes Im truly lucky that I'm getting amazing support from round about me......BUT I'm also lucky to have you all that's posted on here and private mailed me, you are all very encouraging ......and from the bottom of my heart u have ALL helped me and I wish I could actually see each of you individually,hug you and thank you.....

Coldethyl: I've never heard of primary care, is it like a health centre? Anyway I'm so sorry to hear you've had an awful day, I'm sending you a special cozy hug......please please don't think of it as a step forward two steps back..... Please think of it as a "blip"!.....I know what you mean about the broken arm, sore throat scenario ......because if I go out I don't want people asking me why I'm not at work......because it's not straight forward to explain.....whereas it's easier to say anything else! Let me know how you are tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you xxxx

CLKD, this made sound really daft, but what do you think I should put on the note, I usually walk in to docs and fall apart crying xxxx

[Lizab]

I'm not sure if this is what CLKD meant, but I make a list of my symptoms, every last little thing, even if I'm sure it's unrelated (for example, painful toe that I stubbed on the chair). I mark which are most bothersome to me. And I write down questions I have and my own suspicions about my symptoms. That way I can be sure if the doctor never mentions something, I can say "could this be causing it?" Then he has a chance to put my mind at ease or look further it.

I have to do it this way because I get nervous and shy and I have a tendency to minimize or hide my symptoms and act like I'm feeling better than I really am. I once went in for antibiotics thinking I had infected insect bites, but I actually had a raging case of shingles. I completely overlooked the fact that I felt awful, just wanted something for those itchy painful inflamed bites!

[CLKD]

Firstly - nothing is daft, silly, stupid here  and I would 2nd Lizab's response - jot down what bothers me the most, hand the list over and ask my GP to prioritise. Last time I went with a list he kept looking over my shoulder and asking me 'next'  .

If I don't get the response I would like  , I go back a few weeks later and say "I obviously wasn't listening last time, could you remind me what we decided about ……… " - that way I have built up a working relationship in the last 25 years.  When I was very ill he fitted me in 'as necessary' if only to tell me 'let the medication do the work'.

[charliegirl]

Hi Jedi, just reading your post. Where would I find a counsellor that specialises in womens health? Thanks Charliegirl.

[Mandz]

Hi all...

Well went to docs AGAIN...
Told her I'd be on this site and the info I'd been given by all you lovely ladies and how much I'd poured my heart out ...cut to the chase....I start the gel hrt tomorrow..... Finally feel I'm starting to see a glimpse of me, I even went to my friends house tonight and actually laughed, really laughed, .......AND, I made tea tonight for me n my hubby, granted it was sausages eggs n beans....but it was what I wanted, I've mainly been living on sandwiches or toast and leaving him to get what he wanted-or, getting a meal that I just threw in oven

Compared to a week ago.....well, I can see chinks of light xxx

[panda123]

Well done Mandz - you ve accomplished so much in the last few days and you should feel proud of yourself .  I m sure you ll see a big improvement on the gel, I definitely have.  Don't forget you will still have bad days - that's life - and remember they pass and there are years of good days ahead now 

Xxx