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[jorainbow]

Bladder scan came back OK (well at least that's what the chap who scanned said - all looks fine!) so just waiting for bladder scope thing 5th Jan.  Not so good news is the fact I found some messages on my partners facebook tonight from a nurse  he works with saying he liked the kiss they shared today and could he have some more.  So that's done my anxiety, weepiness and general mood the power of good.  Merry Christmas eh.

[jorainbow]

Hi Sparkle. I wish it was but this was 4 days after the event. He was messaging her whilst I was asleep at the side of him. Apparently I've been difficult recently and can be a bit controlling when I get anxious and stressed which I know and he was aware of and supporting. I aren't looking forward to today - no sleep.

[Taz2]

Did he leave his messages open jorainbow?

Taz x 

[Trufflecat]

Great news about your scan.

Everyone can be difficult at times, it's not an excuse for partners to turn away. Have you confronted him?

[SadLynda]

good news on scan.

sorry about other news, hope you can work things out x

[CLKD]

Why are you reading his Facebook ?  Because you thought there is something 'going on'.

So you are difficult  - that's usually a man's way of hinting that they want 'out'.  A man that cares wouldn't use those words.  Seems you have choices to make ………….. like ignoring the partner as NO excuse is good enough.  Alcohol is NOT an excuse ……….

Can you go elsewhere for C.mas?

[Babsm67]

Hello Jorainbow, I have just read your post after not being on here much lately - yes, it is good news about the scan but I agree with everyone else - what your partner is doing has to stop NOW.  Does he know you have seen the messages?  We all have difficult times on this journey & your partner is being anything but supportive.  As Trufflecat said, have you confronted him?  He needs to know that his behaviour is distressing you & that, if he cares, he will stop it.  Better still, he should not just 'unfriend' that nurse on Facebook but he should 'block' her as well - if she doesn't like it - TOUGH!  Wishing you all the best xxx

[jorainbow]

Apologies for being absent yesterday I spent most of it asleep.  Yes I read his messages because I had a gut feeling following the Christmas party. He's all sorry, teary and has sent her a text in front if me saying it was a mistake. I am just going to get through this week and feel a bit stronger then decide whether he's being honest or just 'been caught out'. I am finding it hard not to ask her directly but then again there's no guarantee of the truth there either if she can mess about with a taken man. Sorry not very menopause related post!

[SadLynda]

do share, that is what we are here for.  Thinking of you and sorry you are going through such a difficult time x

[Ju Ju]

 

Good news about the scan, but not so good about your partner.

When you don't know what do, then do nothing. Leave it, see what happens, how you feel later on. Trust yourself to come up with the right way to go from within. Try to put this situation to one side and find the joys and pleasures in little things. You do have choices, but take your time. How you feel now is not how you will feel later. I wish you a peaceful, calm Christmas.

[jorainbow]

Thank you. Hes working tomorrow so I'm spending it with my sons. Eldest off back to Oz on Sunday so im going to make the most if it. Ju Ju those words were just what I needed. Wishing you all a wonderful Christmas xx

[CLKD]

Think about why you are with him?
What has altered/not during those weeks/months/years?
I would suggest that you both close your Facebook accounts - and concentrate face-2-face on any remnants left of your relationship
Is he working with 'her' 2-morrow?

[Babsm67]

It sounds as if your partner is contrite which is a good sign & he sent that woman a text in front of you so she will now be aware that you know about what happened.  This ought to put her off!  I hope everything works out well for you over Christmas.  Sending best wishes xxx

[clio]

Jorainbow, just wanted to say how sorry i am to read your post regarding your partners behaviour.  We are always here for you.

Clio

[CLKD]

Did you cancel your FaceBook accounts yet?  Stop as much opportunity of his being in touch with her as you can!