Hi bella mama
You raise several issues in your post!
First as CLKD says the hairiness is not necessarily related to HRT - it's due to the relative balance between oestrogen and testosterone as we near and reach menopause. As oestrogen falls dramatically - (which it does overall at menopause) the the ratio of T to O increases, even though T itself is falling and can also lead to symptoms.
Also some progestogens in HRT are more androgenic and more likely to lead to these male type symptoms eg hair loss on head and increased hairiness elsewhere eg chin and lip! The one you are on contains norethisterone which is one such. Here are the different types listed and how androgenic (testosterone related) they are:
Progestogens which can be used cyclically are of 3 main types:
Testosterone derived - Norgestrel, Norethisterone acetate and Levonorgestrel.
Less testosterone related - Medroxyprogesterone acetate(MPA).
Least testosterone related - Dydrogesterone and Micronised progesterone (Utrogestan).
Side effects are often experienced during the progestogen phase of treatment and can be reduced by using a product containing a different type or route of progestogen.http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/perimeno.phpAlso you say you are still having hot flushes despite taking Elleste Duet? You mention also stomach problems. It could be that you are not absorbing the oestrogen well from the tablet HRT due to your bowel problems.
You have alternatives - you can either try Femoston (starting with 1/10) - which has the least androgenic progestogen (known as dydrogesterone) and see if you have fewer side effects - but you still might have an absorption problem, or you could try a transdermal HRT which means the hormones get into your system without having to be digested or go through the liver - so won't be affected if you have bowel issues.
Unfortunately both the HRT combi patches contain the most androgenic of the progestogens so you might not want this. Alternatively you could try separate oestrogen (patches or gel) and progesterone (= micronised progesterone marketed as Utrogestan). You might find this a bit of a faff but could be worth it and help you feel better. Also you would then be able to increase the oestrogen by itself until your symptoms went.
The final alternative is to have a Mirena coil fitted which although it contains levonorgestrel - (one of the tesosterone related progestogens) - delivers the progestogen straight to the womb lining rather than into the system so side effects are usually minimal. Then you could have patch or gel oestrogen again as above, to suit.
One last thing if you are so tired and have joint pain, I presume you have had blood tests to rule out other possibilities re vitamin deficiencies and especially thyroid function - it sounds like a good idea to have more tests at this point if you haven't had any recently? Make sure you ask for a print-out of your results too.
Hope this helps and keep us posted!

Hurdity x