Print

Please login or register.
1 Hour 1 Day 1 Week 1 Month Forever
Login with username, password and session length

[dazned]

Dana you could also vol. at any local charity shops. If you don't like dealing directly with the public at the moment you could work with the other vols.out the back sorting stuff. I work in our local hospice charity shops and we are always desperate for help. My mum died at the hospice 16 years ago so this is my way of giving back to them for their invaluable support t a truely horrendous time. It really is a win win role we all usually have a good laugh albeit hard work.

[CLKD]

Volunteering can be what you want it to be - if you like walking, join The Ramblers?  Does your GP Surgery require anyone to do general filing duties a few hours a week?  A friend goes to School 2 mornings a week to hear and encourage slow readers. 

I love being retired.  I never have enough hours in the day  - up, breakfast by the ponds, sorting chores; gardening/walking/charity shops - on here …….  look at your interests over the years and see what is local to you?

[Rebelyell]

Dana - I totally sympathise.  I semi-retired two years ago and whilst I have done lots of work of various types since, it took me this long to realise that what I missed was the camaraderie, the continuity of seeing same people and having a routine.  Now I often don't see anyone but my OH all day [and he is out for most of it] and have to admit to overwhelming loneliness.  I think this is what is causing me health anxiety as I have nothing else to think about. 

I have applied for voluntary work one day a week, started yoga and piloga but really need somewhere to meet people.   

It never occurred to me that I would feel like this - I used to long for p and q, but I suppose you only appreciate something when it isn't all day every day with no alternative.

It's a bugger, isn't it?   But try volunteering, there will be a local volunteers bureau somewhere near you.

[CLKD]

Yep missing folk around with whom to have a laugh and a joke with happened to me.  Whilst I had a dog it was OK as I would meet people/Vets ……. then there was a void until I began 'baby-sitting'  :cat scratch: and  . 

Going to the village shop brightens my morning  as does being in a Supermarket or garden centre  . Usually someone to share a word/several with.

Let us know what you decide Dana? Most Councils have Volunteering Bureuax and will know the gaps locally.

[purplenanny]

Same here HB, it's horrible

Judith , you have been through our nightmares and survived. Thank you for posting to help others even though it is upsetting for you. Big hugs

PN x x

[babyjane]

I missed this thread, it started when I was on holiday.  I am so glad I am not unusual or 'wrong' in having these thoughts.  thank you to everyone who has posted, especially you, Judith ((hug)).

Here's a thought.  Could the regular terrible and tragic things going on in the world today which we hear about on the news make these kinds of thoughts more likely.  I can't think how awful it would be for your family to go off on their holiday and not return  .

[Judith57]

I was just remembering something earlier, when my husband was ill I used to be terrified if I saw one magpie, in the time period between his death and his funeral I came across one magpie in the local park and it gave me huge pleasure to say out loud 'F*** Off Magpie, you don't scare me anymore'. My terrible fear had been replaced by grief but also huge pride in my husband and the way he approached his death with courage and dignity. I was full of love for him and no longer full of fear xx

[babyjane]

bless you Judith x

[Jenna]

I so admire you, Judith, and wish you happiness - you have/have had so much to cope with. xxx

[Judith57]

Thank you Jenna, this pelvic pain is really taking me to the limit though 

[Jenna]

I can well imagine, Judith - it must be terrible for you. I have had treated (well, eventually!) VA for years and then a couple of years ago it started showing itself in a different way as severe soreness in the undercarriage department (!) and even just that hurt to sit down/get in and out of the car/walk etc., and that nearly finished me off, so I dread to think how you must feel. Mine was eventually sorted out over twelve months later after going through all the antibiotic/thrush treatments, again, when it wasn't that at all - just how it was treated at first all those years ago, when what I needed was oestrogen! I really hope things will improve for you - I know that it is such a difficult condition to treat.    xxxx

[Judith57]

I know, nobody seems to know how to mend me! I have now developed a frozen shoulder so struggle to just clip my hair up at the moment  . My body seems to keep finding new ways to torment me...anyway, it's past 6 'o' clock now so I can have a glass of wine 

[purplenanny]

Cheers Judith, just poured myself a glass and I am toasting you x x

[Judith57]

Thank you PN cheers