Hello ladies, I'd appreciate your thoughts on this topic.
During the course of the menopause I have become increasingly self critical and I think this attitude is just adding to my problems. I hate the fact that amongst many other things I'm on edge all the time, my concentration is poor and when I talk I struggle to string a sentence together. I realised today that I blame myself for everything and believe that if I wasn't so inadequate I would be coping much better.
I've never been the most confident person but it seems the things I liked about myself and was proud of have disappeared and I constantly criticise myself for letting this happen.
I know lack of self confidence and lowering self esteem are listed as emotional problems that come with the menopause but this beating myself up is really difficult to deal with.
Can any of you lovely ladies relate to feeling this way or is it just me on this one?!
Best wishes to you all and take care.
K.
When any biological system is out of whack, be it hormones out of whack, or nerve receptors out of whack due to drugs, etc, this imbalance affects us emotionally, and we are more inclined to be negative and to listen to negative-self-talk.
It's not that you are inadequate, it's your physical system, affecting your moods, and making you more liable to believe in the negative self talk.
I suffer from self harm, I have done it all my life, but the more stress that is piled on me, the more likely my self harm is to worsen.
I can definitely relate.
Menopause crept up on me six years ago, and I thought my hotness, moodiness and diarrhoea was due to a med my doctor was weaning me off from.
When I eventually got hrt, it solved a lot of these problems.
If I was not on hrt i would be a wreck to say the least.
