Yep, I was the same. For the same reason. I worry in case DH gets cancer and requires chemo ……
Eventually, I worked in a Hospital. I only saw patients sick 3 times in 8 years
- I kept away from post-op patients, I was good at handing over the bowl and leaving ……. but if anyone had a 'bug' in the Hospital Staff with whom I worked I couldn't eat for days
……… however, the associated smell has gone as cleaning methods have altered - no more antiseptics and our cleaners were stripping and re-oiling the floors *every* morning when I went onto the Ward ………
You don't need/want to see your Aunt, your Mum is un-likely to visit her?
When my Dad was hospitalised [several times for various reasons] I managed, it's surprising how much we can do despite the phobia. I made sure not to look at anyone else and knew where the loo was. When DH had surgery he had a very nice Norwegian Nurse so it wasn't necessary for me to visit until 'all that' risk had gone. M in L was in several hospitals towards the end of her Life and I did manage, I carried a carrier bag with me 'in case' but never required it …….. if any patients close by coughed, I closed her curtains
- the day we went into the Ward when she was poorly DH dealt with the necessaries whilst I sat well away. She didn't notice.
Have 'the conversation' with your sister rather than wait and letting the worry fester? My biggest fear is the Tube, public transport …… being shut in. In case. As for travelling on vehicles with kids present
……. WON'T !!!!
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