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[dazned]

Just had an awful shocking text my husband's boss went to hospital for an appointment this morning, 3 hours later he had passed away there !!

Terrible ,just terrible. I'm all shaking now !!

[honeybun]

 


What a terrible thing to happen. Was he ill or just a coincidence that he was at hospital.

Sit down and have a cuppa. Will your hubby be in soon.


Honeyb
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[CLKD]

Oh how sad.  He was obviously poorly poorly, no doubt you will have more details as the days go by.  Expect there may be a post mortem unless it was obvious that he had an under-lying condition, hence the Appt..

 

[dazned]

Hubby will be in soon thank God just to hug him will be wonderful x

No the man was at work this morning the hospital is 2 min walk away he was just there for appointment as far as we know,might know more when DH home ,very distressing his poor family !

[dazned]

And my husband is very depressed at the moment what with worrying about what's going on with me this will really affect him badly

Thanks for your support. Xx

[CLKD]

Is your DH getting support for his depression? 

[dazned]

No he won't go to doctors I've tried to get him to go just refuses

Oh dear sometimes life stinks !

[CLKD]

How does his depression affect him?  Is it low mood: does he wake in the early hours, how is his appetite …….. don't let him 'blame' your symptoms for his depression!

[Dorothy]

So sorry, what a horrible shock for everyone, especially the family.  Thinking of you.

[Dyan]

So sorry dazned.
Thinking of you both X

[Joyce]

Goodness, what a shock for everyone.

[dazned]

Thank you all ,feeling a bit better now hubby home

Persuaded him to pop out for an hour with a pal across the road or that he will open up about anything you know what men are like ! 

CLKD he wakes early and low mood in himself but eating ok.but obviously he is worried about me ,we only have each other ,well I mean no family,parents kids etc. It's only natural I guess he wouldn't be human if he didn't 

But then the vicious circle begins doesn't it .x

[honeybun]

Maybe try and find something to do together that you both enjoy. For hubby and I its a community garden. Think allotement only smaller. We go together and have met lots of people. It takes us away from problems and I relax and so does he.
It could be anything, walking...yoga, dancing...oh anything at all.

If hubby and I stay in the house then it can become oppressive. You have weekends together. Try and think of something you both might enjoy and go and spend quality time together.
Might just be a Coast or country walk but you will be amazed what a difference just making a little effort will have.

Honeyb
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[CLKD]

I really agree.  We have always done everything together, being joined at the hip almost 

Charity shops; auctions; antique fairs; walking, cycling, gardening, sitting; reading; DH cooks and I clean; fishing, sport, watching some sports on TV ……… we don't have friends in/out, we don't have family visiting, we have a good relationship with the Bank and our FA.  Since he retired DH often stands and tells me he's enjoying 'this'  …….

I had pen-pals for years, some are now e-mail friends.  We had a dog which took us to places we would never have visited.  We love going to towns across the UK: Durham, Stamford, Brighton, Lewes …...

[dazned]

Update,
Now know the cause 're DH boss,he didn't have a hospital appointment as I thought he was at work and said he didn't feel right so he walked just round the corner to hospital to get looked over ,a few hours later he had passed away! It was an aortic aneurysm in the stomach how very tragic, really scary!

How fragile life is ,really upset me and I didn't even really know the poor man