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[Joyce]

Oh those shift changes were awful.  Hubby sure doesn't miss them. 

[CLKD]

Why do we have to keep quiet when a partner has been on a shift  ……. if they are tired they will sleep  …...

[purplenanny]

We have slept in different rooms since hubby's illness and although I was very upset at first, it works well for us. He always makes the first cuppa of the day about 730 and comes into my bed for a cuddle ( all I can hope for these days)

When the grandchildren stay over we sleep together, which is also lovely

It's all about accepting what works for both I guess  PN x x

[Limpy]

Why do we have to keep quiet when a partner has been on a shift  ……. if they are tired they will sleep  …...

Er - Perhaps it's because even when we are tired we don't always sleep - Think that may have been the point Honeyb was trying to make when when she started this thread 

[honeybun]

We keep quiet because it's the right thing to do.

Yep spot on Limpy. Not really looking forward to bed time tonight. Just hope we both sleep.


Honeyb
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[ariadne]

Because noise disturbs sleep whether one is tired or not.

Ariadne xx

[groundhog]

I really sympathise HB.  Now I 'don't work' my husband seems to think it ok if I don't sleep well!  He snores, twitches and lashes out plus he is always boiling.  We have separate rooms most nights I'm afraid.  It does actually work ok - our bungalow is quite small and our rooms are next to each other so we can chat whilst in our separate rooms.  He will quite often come to bed in the early hours as once I'm asleep it's not too bad but I find it impossible to go to sleep with him.
He's not very understanding of my health problems or the fact I care for my mother so feels it's ok for me to be awake half the night !!!! Yet if he has a disturbed night ....................

[honeybun]

Like I said


Inconsiderate 


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[Ju Ju]

CLKD, When you work a shift system that changes from week to week, 2-10, 10-6 and 6-2, with inadequate time to adjust and you do a job where you see people at their worst and see terrible things, then you deserve the chance to sleep. As a family, we needed him to survive and not go round like a bear with a sore head and feeling permanently jet lagged.

[Joyce]

We have slept in different rooms since hubby's illness and although I was very upset at first, it works well for us.
It's all about accepting what works for both I guess  PN x x

I agree PN.

My kids, as adults, have both stated they resented having to always be careful not to disturb their dad. Like you say Ju Ju, they saw some horrid things in their job. Takes time to recover, time they seldom got with quick changeovers.

[CLKD]

I need to rant but it would take days  ………. >slinks off< : new thread later

[honeybun]

What's up CLKD?

Much better night last night for us both thankfully. Still feel a bit washed out though. Hey ho, onwards and upwards I guess
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[CLKD]

Did you think of a way to open up the topic of his disturbing your sleep?  Probably due to all that is going on ?

OK - need to rant but need to choose my words carefully 

[Ju Ju]

Rant away! After all you are anonymous here! You're safe!

[CLKD]

  …. should have started the rant in the early hours