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[honeybun]

Everyone fine today thank goodness. I think hubby and I were lucky it wasn't full blown food poisoning. Won't forget that little episode in a hurry that's for sure.

Much more relaxed today and just a buffet to prepare for dinner. Easy peasy stuff......oh and no seafood.   


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[bev567901]

It was lovely reading all the normal Christmas Days, being perfect is over rated! We had a shock our 9 & 10 yr olds decided to get up at 5 am & open all but their big pressies in their bedrooms with friends via Skype as apparently Santa isn't real.  I woke at 8.30 am to silence & thought they must have done it & had a snooze but they had slept through the alarm & it was me waking them up this year!!! So grateful as I had worked so hard right up to Christmas Eve & not had much sleep. Lunch was lovely but I have M & S to thank for that. Just waiting for the Boxing Day snow that is promised today, will be amazing if it does happen as we never get much here. Happy Christmas everyone this year has been so much hormonally better than last xxxx 

[Limpy]

Honeyb - What a day.
Glad the stomach problems have passed.

We were away for Christmas so all the shopping, cooking and clearing up were done by somebody else.
Worked splendidly till 9.30 on Christmas day.

[CLKD]

Kathleen - alcohol is a depressant - so when you aren't drinking your body will have a reaction.  It depresses the whole body/brain ……… you may need to talk to your GP about a short-term relaxant, i.e. Valium.

I can't imagine my parents not hearing us opening our gifts what ever time of day  ……….

[ariadne]

Xmas day was fine although I had become quite stressed about fitting everything in the oven even though there were only 2 extra adults to feed.

Today we went over to eldest stepson as he didnt have his children on Xmas day (separated from his partner) We have been very sad to hear how our 14 year old granddaughter has been behaving towards her dad lately- rudenesss, saying she is ill to avoid going round, stomping off home on her own if her Dad tries to say anything about her rudeness.

It was her birthday 2 weeks ago but she didnt turn up at her Dads so we left her presents and money and all sent her Happy Birthday texts but got no reply.

When her Dad asked her what she would like for Xmas this year she said "Nothing because all the presents you buy are rubbish"

Today she opened her Dad's presents and said thank you after each one but loudly and with a nasty sarcastic tone. Her dad had bought her an expensive set of wireless headphones. She said "Ohhhh, thaaaaank you SO much they are WUNderful" but with heavy sarcasm. As well as presents we had given both grandchildren a cheque to open a savings account with. Our granddaughter said "I dont want a bank account I prefer to keep my money in my bedroom"

 Last Xmas we were upset when she wouldnt open her presents until we almost begged her, then she opened them in silence and placed them in a pile without comment.

We so wanted to say something about her rudeness but didnt want to spoil sons day with his children or risk her stomping off home yet again. We can see how he's treading on eggshells  every time he speaks to her.

We're used to boys  -had the usual problems when they were teens but we feel out of our depth with our granddaughter. I guess she will grow out of it but are we wrong to think she does need to be spoken to about her behaviour?

I'm sure that lovely sweet little girl must still be in there somewhere

Ariadne xx

[honeybun]

She probably is but teenage girls can be a nightmare. I put up with the huffing but out and out rudeness was not on. Different for me though as my daughter was with me all the time. I'm sure your son just wants his daughter there no matter how she behaves. Is it possible to have a word with her mum about her attitude. Mind you she is probably like that with her mum too.

They do grow out of it...honestly.....just takes a good few years unfortunately.



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[Limpy]

As well as presents we had given both grandchildren a cheque to open a savings account with. Our granddaughter said "I dont want a bank account I prefer to keep my money in my bedroom"

Last Xmas we were upset when she wouldnt open her presents until we almost begged her, then she opened them in silence and placed them in a pile without comment.

We so wanted to say something about her rudeness but didnt want to spoil sons day with his children or risk her stomping off home yet again. We can see how he's treading on eggshells  every time he speaks to her.

Ariadne - it must be horrid I can see how you don't want to upset your son. However, you do not have to condone this rudeness from his daughter. Each time somebody lets it go it without comment it becomes the accepted norm.

[Joyce]

Huffiness is one thing, but rudeness isn't on. Though I can understand why you had to bite your tongue. Not your place.

[Dulciana]

Just before midnight, I was sitting listening to our Minister's sermon, feeling swimmingly tired and wondering how on earth I was going to get through the last carol of the night and do justice to the piece of organ music I had chosen to play at the end.  I did get through both, with a little help from above, and even got a clap for my efforts   
Didn't sleep much, though, because I had to get up in time to play for the Christmas Day service at 10.30.   Felt pretty dozy while I played for that, but drove home safely afterwards, luckily. 
(We'd opened pressies before I went out, while we were stuffing our faces with bacon sandwiches and coffee!)
Went round (Dad too) to in-laws for Christmas dinner, which was lovely.
Took a taxi back at the end of the evening - with our new drink/drive laws, you can't be too careful....
Got Dad safely to his front door, even though it was frosty underfoot.
Daughter was ill in the middle of the night.  I think it was a combination of food, excitement and being swung round in the back of the taxi all the way home.  Poor wee soul!  (She's not wee - she's 27 - but I still think of her that way.) So I still didn't sleep well, as I had to look after her, but the pressure was off and we had had a lovely day with family, and were in contact with those who couldn't join us. 

[Ju Ju]

Sounds lovely, Duliciana!

[CLKD]

well done Dulciana 

As for rudeness - difficult because her Dad wants her there but he needs to lay down guide lines. His house, his rules.  If she doesn't like it ……. as for badgering her to open gifts, don't fall into the trap. Handing her presents to her saying "these are given with love" and leave it.  She is 'that age' and attention seeking, also in a split family probably playing 1 against the other.  Expected.  But rudeness is not acceptable.  No doubt she feels torn too …….. I remember being torn even when parents were 2-gether 

Have a chat with her Dad about how he really feels about her rudeness.  Had I said anything in such a way the gifts would have disappeared …….. however much we didn't like anything we knew that had we even given anyone 'the look', they would have been taken away again.  One soon learns 

I survived  …………. despite Mother coughing and spluttering and DH joining in when she wasn't coughing and spluttering