Oh don't they moan - for ENGLAND
……… my Mum can find something to moan about: the list being 2 long to list here
and no, you aren't being dis-loyal!
We can all get into habits. When I moved here a new friend pointed out how I 'came across' so I was able to alter my attitudes. My attitudes had travelled with me from the parenting situation but I was shown that there are other ways of 'living' and I no longer had to copy my parents. It took hard work but with honest people around me I got out of the habit of moaning unless it was constructive: apart from shouting at the TV
- DH will give me a 'look' or mutter 'I can hear your Mother' …….
I expect your parents are so used to their moaning that they don't even hear each other! Do they talk over each other? Do they agree with the other …….. all bad habits which they are engrained into. After 60 years and remember, they have stayed through choice
as well as habit …….. they probably wouldn't cope if they separated. This is *their* choice.
How much time do you think you should spend with them? How about starting hobbies that take you away more? or keep you engrossed …….
I suggest that you read our 'caring for elderly relatives' thread and begin to list what your parents may/will require in the future, i.e. how to source care etc.. No need to tell them but having a drawer with it all in now eases the situation should there be a crisis.