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[samweller161]

Hi Down Day
Don't forget that Xmas is stressful under normal circumstances! So don't put pressure on yourself to feel festive. I take hrt (premique) and Escitalapram which I think better than Citalapram, have you tried a counsellor? That would help you but I agree with the others that you need to speak to your doctor. Good luck!! X

[CLKD]

Glad there's a little improvement!

Side effect I am unable to tolerate with any medication is nausea - within hours I can't eat, I feel dizzy, I feel awful - the only way to improve is to stop which ever med is causing the issue. Some AD side-effects can be overcome ……….. the more recent 2, 1 I had in 2002 was OK but didn't boost my brain enough; now I take escitalopram[Cipralex] 5mg night and morning.  If my brain needs a boost I take extra 5mg at night.

Making a list each evening helped me focus.  I could then go about on automatic pilot.

Do all those presents really need buying?  We have cut back hugely in recent years.  When I was ill in the 1990s I did EVERYTHING by catalogue.  The 1st that plopped onto the mat each Autumn got my custom  ……. because I was unable to go into shops, even the village one, it was impossible.  Calendars are my fall-back item, each to buy, easy to wrap, quick to post …….

[littleminnie]

Sorry you are feeling down Tropicalvon69.  Order your gifts online, you might  feel a bit better after and it will alleviate some of the Xmas stress/anxiety. X

[TropicalVon69]

Thakls ladies, it's not so much they shopping as I have been forcing myself out as there was a period of anxiety at the beginning of all this a few months ago I wouldnt go out or felt I couldnt....I t prob has bee a combination of not able to focus, leaving things too long and being  skint, but all f this I can deal with, its the hormonal crap that goes with meno that drags me down......as Im sure you all know esp after reading your posts...hopefully period will arrive beforehand lol and all will be if not joyful then as least ok...oh ladies how do we cope sometimes I dont know, actually I do, because were brave, optimistic, strong and care for the people around us if not ourselves sometimes.......thank you all so much for the care, wisdom and positivity....God help us all  xxx

[CLKD]

So you're going to do what about the present buying?  Plan ………. ?

[TropicalVon69]

Pretty much buy what I can with the money I have spare and if I cant then I cant Clkd...feeling much more positive today....after all at the end of the day, people matter more than stuff so today I am refusing to be upset about it...Tomorrow, however is another day x

[honeybun]

It's the thought behind things that counts and not how much you spend.

My daughter is a very hard up student. She wanted to buy her dad something special on a limited budget. She has bought little bits and bobs, I have provided a basket and she is making a lovely hamper up for him full of little treats. He will see the effort and probably like that better than anything else.

You can only do your best 

Hope you feel better really soon.


Honeyb
x

[renee]

Glad to hear your a bit better Tropicalvon69....and that's hormones for you, every day is just so different. I tend to try not make plans to meet people or do stuff too far in advance as you either let people down or yourself down!! Im learning. Lol

Im on HRT, thyroxine and now an anti depressant....apart from having to take thyroxine, Iv tried different vitamins, exercise etc but unfortunately Menooause won in the end and I had to take HRT etc or else I would have lost my mind as well as my family and friends!!

Im usually a good all round laid back person but the person looking back at me in the mirror and the things that come out of my mouth doesn't seem like me....I feel Iv changed and not for the better to be honest.

Im angry, irritated, hot, tired, look awful with dry hair, blotchy dry skin.....where did I go?

I hope I come back one day soon....😕😕

[TropicalVon69]

Thanks Hpneybun, I usually spend a long time looking for a present for people and buy something I think yjey will love (within financial reason lol) regardless of how cheap or expensive, I just havent had the motivation this year with meno but also do not give to receive, so for this year only it will be cheap, cheerful and with bit less thought lol....I'm sure your husband will love the gift from your daughter as all gifts have been picked spc for him...as you say, thought and care matters more than anything 
Thanks Renee, yeah I feel the same ...sometimes feel like the grinch that my heart has shrunk and other times so happy or sad that I care more than I ever have about people and situations, what a bewildering time it is and feel for our famillies...my youngest told me last night she wants her old mummy back, broke my heart tbh and also feel for us .....yeah barely recognise myself either...wishing us a speedy return for all involved xxx

[gilaray]

Tropical
One of the beat things for anxiety/mild depression in my opinion is yoga.

It can calm your mind, tone your body and feed your spirit. It grounds you and makes your thoughts less dark and worrisome makes you more able to cope with day to day life with a more positive approach.

 Just look up the stats for the health/mental benefits - there are many

It should be prescribed on the NHS

 

[TropicalVon69]

Thanks Gilaray, I did do a yoga session a couple of weeks ago but instructor was retiring but hopefully there will be a new instructor after the holidays to replace her but I found even the one session helpful...I felt a wee shift :-)...thanks for the advice XXX

[donnacrichton]

I also had a bad experience with Citalopram made me suicidal so Ii can sympathize I am terrified of other drugs now. That was three years ago this Christmas and I also have 2 girls. I am still having problems getting right hrt still. This time of year brings back all the memories but can honestly say my girls have made me proud. They know so much about hormones and mental health now. I appreciate all my good days and we appreciate small things now just to be together at bed time. Sounds mad but I remember the days I couldn't find good thoughts. I hope you get some relief soon. I try to practice mindfulness you can get it online. Try and make yourself find odd happy thoughts throughout the day. Sending you hugs as been there xxxx

[CLKD]

I agree - standing still when I feel OK is important - looking round a shop, or at the sea, or doing stuff in the garden without anxiety is appreciated.

A small gift now is OK - one can always meet for coffee or buy a treat when seen during the year. 

[TropicalVon69]

Yeah Donna, I know how that feels.....thank you so much for sharing and or giving me hope...havent tried hrt yet though....bloody awful isnt it....have crashed again today with period, crying, runs and cold, not sure which orifice to attend to first ....have been practising mindfulness, thanks.....things are a bit better thoiugh than a couple of days ago....hope you have a lovely Christmas with your girls and so glad for you that youre in a better place...what hrt have you tried?...that is my plan Clkd....hope youre having a good day ladies xxx

[babyjane]

standing still when I feel OK is important

I need to remember this as I tend to race about catching up all the things I have overlooked and neglected when I feel ok. I often think of the poem 'What is this life if, full of care, we have no time to stand and stare' but I forget to apply it.

I used to misinterpret it. If you onit the first comma it reads completely differently.

Sorry I'm rambling on