Home
|
About
|
Magazine
|
Specialists
|
Forum
|
Professionals
|
Sitemap
|
Shop
|
Contact
Menu
Menopause
Am I at the Menopause.?
Diagnosis
Premature Menopause
Premature Menopause
Definition
Causes
Investigations
Consequences
Management
Fertility
Resources
Menopause Symptoms
Symptoms
Physical
Psychological
Symptom Scoresheet
Scoresheet Guide
Bleeding Problems
Heavy Periods
Investigations
Treatments
HRT and Periods
Postmenopausal Bleeding
Vaginal Problems
Symptoms
Treatments
Resources
Pelvic Organ Prolapse
Bladder Matters
Menopause and HRT after Hysterectomy
Treatments
What to do
CBT for Menopausal Symptoms
Diet, Lifestyle & Exercise
Diet, Lifestyle & Exercise
Omega-6 Diet
Weight Gain
BMI Calculator
Menopause at Work
Hormone Replacement Therapy
Estrogens
Progestogens
Route
Benefits
Risks
Balancing Risks & Benefits
Contra - indications
Side Effects
When to be referred
Review when taking HRT
Duration of HRT
Stopping HRT
HRT Preparations
Treatment
Estrogens
Progestogens
For Perimenopause
For Postmenopause
Vaginal Treatments
Prescribable non-HRT
Testosterone
Alternative Therapies
Remedies
Phytoestrogens
Other Alternatives
Alternative Techniques
Decision Tree
Health
Health at Menopause
Contraception
For older women
The Pill, Patch and Vaginal Ring
Mini Pill, Injectable and Implant
Coil, Mirena and Condoms
Sterilisation
When to stop
Osteoporosis
Osteoporosis
Risk Factors
Diagnosis
Treatments
Heart Disease
What is CVD
Risk Factors for CVD
Reducing Risk of CVD
HRT and Heart Disease
Video Interview
A to Z of menopause and medical conditions
Magazine
Shop
More
News
Press Archive
Leaflets
Books
Multimedia
Surveys
Testimonials
Blogs
Katie's Fitness
Supported By
Commercial Opportunities
Bibliography
Disclaimer & Privacy
Links
Press Pack
Menopause Matters Forum
October 13, 2025, 06:48:15 PM
Welcome,
Guest
Please
login
or
register
.
1 Hour
1 Day
1 Week
1 Month
Forever
Login with username, password and session length
News:
Menopause Matters magazine
ISSUE 81 out now. (Autumn issue, September 2025)
Home
Help
Search
Login
Register
Menopause Matters Forum
>
Menopause Discussion
>
All things menopause
>
Down day
« previous
next »
Pages: [
1
]
2
3
Print
Author
Topic: Down day (Read 9639 times)
TropicalVon69
Guest
Down day
«
on:
December 12, 2014, 03:59:57 PM »
Just had to vent how I feel today ladies, forgive me for negative post....Just feeling totally depressed, peri and periods due but just want to cry...I've no interest in anything and feel empty and cant thin straiht or atall really...head fels fit to burst...had a friend in this afternoon and just had nothing to say...want this to end....feel utterly depressed about Christmas and the thought of my gorgeous girls having to put up with me through Xmas n being miserable is too much to bear today....no presents bought for anyone apart from kids n grandparents....our tree is usually bulging with presents for people and has none.....but its my girls that makes me most sad...I want them to have a lovely day and just feeling joyless ....I know I'm not the only one here but feeling so depressed....Hope you are all having a good day, XXX
Logged
Joyce
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #1 on:
December 12, 2014, 04:02:34 PM »
Aww maybe nearer the time your mood will lift.
Logged
gilaray
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #2 on:
December 12, 2014, 04:06:24 PM »
This feeling will pass. Today is a bad day let it wash over you, tomorrow you will feel better. I am struggling with Christmas too, really cant be bothered. Up days, down days, indifferent days thats how it is especially for us menopausal women. The key to feeling better count three things to be grateful for each day, exercise, meditate, do random acts of kindness. Hope you feel better soon x
Logged
TropicalVon69
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #3 on:
December 12, 2014, 04:14:28 PM »
Thanks ladies, yeah tomorrow is another day, hopefully a better one for us all, just cant really say all this to friends...thanks for your positivity Gilaray and Cubagirls XXX
Logged
CLKD
Member
Posts: 78956
changes can be scary, even when we want them
Re: Down day
«
Reply #4 on:
December 12, 2014, 04:48:08 PM »
You sound depressed. This is a bad time for anyone feeling below par or worse.
How old are your girls?
Logged
TropicalVon69
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #5 on:
December 12, 2014, 06:39:00 PM »
Hi CLKD...my girls are 9 and 17 and yes I do feel depressed...hoping it lifts a bit for Xmas x
Logged
renee
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #6 on:
December 12, 2014, 06:52:26 PM »
AwW Tropicalvon 69.....what a horrible way to feel isn't it.
I feel for you and have felt like that on days myself this past few months....do you take HRT?
Iv had to start a low dose anti depressant, Iv tried to fight it myself since the beginning of October but everyday was like Groundhog Day so I took the advice of my doctor and after just a week taking them I feel a little better....now I look back and it's scared me of how low I really was...it's scary.
Let us all know how your feeling tomorrow.....hot chocolate, cozies on and take it easy. ❤️
Logged
CLKD
Member
Posts: 78956
changes can be scary, even when we want them
Re: Down day
«
Reply #7 on:
December 12, 2014, 07:05:05 PM »
So when you are hungry, do you not eat? So if you feel depressed, why not talk to your GP about medication for 5-6 months? Lifting the mood will let you see the wood for the trees. Relaxation and 'me time' can lift mood too. I have deep bubble baths most evenings, with a cuppa and Very Good Book
Start small: you have 2 healthy girls, you can discuss here, you can talk to your GP …….. little steps
Logged
TropicalVon69
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #8 on:
December 12, 2014, 07:06:52 PM »
Hi Renee no, not on hrt unfortunately, although my doc has referred me to a meno clinic but unsure how long that will take.....have tried citalopram but aftter 6 weeks it made me feel even worse.with horrible thoughts...that was scary and put me off taking ads to be honest...glad youre feeling better and ads working for you..awful though isnt it....thanks for your message xxx
Logged
TropicalVon69
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #9 on:
December 12, 2014, 07:10:20 PM »
Thanks CLKD I tried citalopram but had a very bad experience and scared to try anything else to be honest.....I have been keeping bsy but have crashed today.....yeah night times are much better and a good book at bedtime takes my mind off things X
Logged
CLKD
Member
Posts: 78956
changes can be scary, even when we want them
Re: Down day
«
Reply #10 on:
December 12, 2014, 07:52:16 PM »
I had several different ADs before we found 1 which works. Awful side effects though
Logged
renee
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #11 on:
December 12, 2014, 10:01:38 PM »
Hope you app comes through really soon. ❤️
There's no meno clinic where I live...wish there was as General Practitioners aren't totally clued up with menopause stuff are they.
Keep us updated and take care xxxx
Logged
Joyce
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #12 on:
December 12, 2014, 10:55:21 PM »
My first meno clinic appointment came through within about 14 weeks. Don't know if it's the same all over the country though.
Logged
TropicalVon69
Guest
Re: Down day
«
Reply #13 on:
December 13, 2014, 06:57:47 AM »
Feeling a by better ti morning ladies, no school run so a wee bit more relaxed morning......thank you all for your kind replies and positivity...Clkd, what side effects did you find with your ads?......thatsawful Renee there should be local meno centres all over
....no gps definitely arent clued up about meno...are you receiving any treatment?.....Cubagirl....14 weeks feels like a long time from here lol....did you get anywhere with your appt?...Obv were all at different stages of meno and all different individuals so know that different things work for us all but what works for you ladies? Hope youre all having a good morning
xxx
Logged
Kathleen
Member
Posts: 4948
Re: Down day
«
Reply #14 on:
December 13, 2014, 11:44:02 AM »
Hello TropicalVon69.
I've just read your post and wanted to send my sympathies. I recognise so much of what you say and feeling joyless seems especially cruel at this time of year.
Hopefully you'll turn a corner soon and wishing you well.
K.
Logged
Print
Pages: [
1
]
2
3
« previous
next »
Menopause Matters Forum
>
Menopause Discussion
>
All things menopause
>
Down day