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[warwick01]

Good afternoon ladies.

I am 55 started HRT at 51 but I have noticed over the last 3 months my symptoms including missed heart beats/palpitations hot flushes and light-headedness are creeping through again.

Along with the above I am feeling up tight (wired) snapping at everyone esp my husband. He told me on Sunday he doesn't like how I am behaving for example I lose patience with shopkeepers etc. I know these things are happening but I can't stop. I have had a few panic attacks whilst out too, which is now making me no want to go any where.

I left my job 4 weeks ago because I couldn't cope, I am now feeling so guilty. We are having some family stress too.

My question is...... at 55 is it possible for symptoms to increase?? I have tried to cut down on my Oestrogel as 4 pumps seems a lot....... Not sure what to do anymore, my confidence is in my boots!!!! I hate myself

Can anyone relate to these symptoms??

[Joyce]

Can't relate I'm afraid, but maybe best if you were to see your GP for a review & discuss how you're feeling.
Various things could be causing this, stress possibly at top of the list as you say you have family stress. Stress/anxiety can occasionally make me feel pretty rubbish.

[Dancinggirl]

Hi warwick01
I was told to have a break from HRT last autumn - so it's nearly year without HRT - and I find I am so much more grumpy and intolerant. I don't like the effect the lack of oestrogen has had but I don't think it can be entirely down to the menopause.  I think we get to our 50s and there are quite a lot of difficult stresses to cope with at this stage in our lives and frankly we really need to be taking care of ourselves and bit more. I often find I resent the demands put on me. I do feel under pressure to keep going when I know things are too much for me.  Elderly relations and even our grown up kids need so much more support - we are also expected to keep working into our late 60s. 
You sound as though you are overwhelmed and stressed and need some time out. Perhaps some counselling to help deal with your underlying stress and lack of confidence?
Some women also find they need some antidepressants alongside the HRT to counter those flushes etc.
Do you have a good GP you can talk to?
DG x

[honeybun]

It could be as much to do with age .....and stress.

I have a lot of demands on me although I don't go out to work. 92 yr old mum who is difficult in the extreme, daughter in uni who needs a lot of propping up, hubby with health issues.......and then there is me who is supposed to be the Duracell bunny and just keep on going.

It's that time of life I'm afraid. Unstable hormones, elderly relatives and just getting older generally and not having as much energy and resilience as we used to.

Have to say though, you seem to be on a really large amount of oestrogen. Maybe too much for someone your age.
I am 54 and trying to cut down as I don't feel as if I need quite as much now.

Honeyb
x

[daisie]

hi warwick...yes it has got worse for me im 59 not on hrt still going through some terrible symptoms of menopause iv been fighting it now since I first started with it at the age of 46 told not to take hrt as my sister died at the age of 35  with breast cancer..i was such an out going person enjoying life till the menopause came along its been one thing after another terrible anxiety depression in and out to hospital having biopsys for bleeding problems feelings of not wanting to go out .not interested in things I used to be yes for me it has got worse when I first started I didn't know anything about the menopause a friends mother did tell me it would get worse she was right x

[warwick01]

Hi Ladies - thank you for replying, it helps to know I'm not alone.

If we new when we had reached our peak it would help. As I started HRT at 51 when I started with symptoms affecting my quality of life. I am now 55 and therefore feel symptoms may have increased. One thing I do know if I try to decrease my HRT the flushes and sweats return very quickly.

In the beginning anxiety was not the problem, unfortunately it is the biggest problem now along with depression.

The only thing I remember was my mother saying god help you when you go through the change......... nothing else. 

[meno lesley]

Hi

I'm 56 and started the wonderful meno journey at 52 which came from nowhere and to be honest I've struggled. Have tried many different hrts and now am on estrogel and utrogestan which has been the best of a bad bunch. I am seeing nick panay meno specialist in a few weeks time as a last attempt for help. Not sure what I will do if that appointment doesn't help
 Do hope this improves for you soon x

[warwick01]

Hi Meno Lesley

I will be 56 in January and like you have tried various HRT, Oestrogel the best for me although GP has refused the Ugeteron and therefore struggling with Northesterone.

I try to manage with 2 pumps od gel in the morning and 1 eve as Im trying not to increase but I wonder if I should be on 4 pumps a day?? May I ask how much you use? with being the same age. People tell me I should be on a low dose at 55 but I feel so crap  when I try to reduce. Also do you find when you get to the bottom of the gel bottle it doesn't appear to work??

Good to hear from you guys as no one appears to want to talk about this subject

W

[Mrs January]

Hi Warwick01

Bless ya honey, life is hard just now. Hormones are a nightmare in my life, yours and many other lovely ladies on here.

Take on step at a time is all you can do, be kind to your self. I gave up all caffeine and alcohol to help with anxiety ..would it help you if you still have these? I don't know but worth a try.......scale back, do what you have only to do each data and do some nice things too even if just a walk or bubble bath etc....Delegate things to others that you don't need to do.

I send you my hugs and love

Mrs January xxx

[warwick01]

Thanks Mrs January.

I find a tipple in the eve (no more than 2 glasses) of wine really helps and I actually feel normal....... always worse during the night and first thing in the morning.

I wish I new how long this nightmare will last, my life is on hold right now and at 55 surly it should be the best time in our life??

Thanks for listening W

[Winterose]

These symptoms can take over your entire thought process - stress does not help , can you try some yoga or just get out for a walk , and you can always have a rant on here,

[meno lesley]

Hi Warwick

I've fiddled about with the dosage and timing of estrogel. At the moment I have one pump at night and one in the morning which I have tried reducing but all sorts kicked off. I have some days that are bearable and some that are awful, and others that I can feel spacey, dry eyed, weird head like someone has put a headband tightly on, can't concentrate, teary and then the feeling will suddenly go. Like you I worry about the future and when I have to reduce as I am sure I will be carted off to the funny farm.

Lesley