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[2cats]

I've had a few emotional outbursts with my daughters and husband lately (nothing out of the ordinary for a family but my reactions have been very angry and distressed).  I think these outbursts have built up in me as I am now feeling on the verge of tears each day, overwhelmed and unable to cope.  Just want to stay in bed and be left alone especially as I can't stand the person I am when I behave so crossly.

My capacity to cope with family issues is so reduced now, that I need plain sailing in order to remain well.  Of course this is very unlikely to happen in reality and makes me think I should be on my own and leave them to live without the upset.

Can't believe I'm so low again.  Have self-referred for some help re low mood/anxiety.

[rosebud57]

Depression in a nutshell.  Best to see you Doc as it does not go away without help.  I put up with feelings like this for a year until I finally went over the edge (it wasn't pretty).  Mine was mainly caused by lack of sleep due to night sweats.  Six months on prozac and I crawled out of the dark hole.  Don't be scared of antidepressants as you can still stay in control.  My Doc wanted me to stay on the for up to 3 years, but after 6 months I felt ready.  They give you a chance to feel normal again and I know that if I ever felt like that again I would be back to the doctors within weeks, not months.  Also talk to your family.  It's easy to hide what you feel but you need them onside as well.

Best of luck
 

[Hurdity]

Are you still peri-menopausal 2cats? If so your hormone fluctuations could be making you feel like this and less able to cope. If post-meno - maybe you would benefit from a higher dose - you mentioned oestrogen levels on another thread. Can't remember how old you are - sorry!

Hurdity x

[caz24]

2cats

So sorry to hear that you're feeling so low, I can really associate with these feelings. I am 47 and peri-menopausal so thank you Hurdity for saying that hormone fluctuations can make us feel like this, knowing that helps a little.
I have been trying to stop any outbursts and am trying really hard to walk away from situations that are causing me to feel anxious, angry or just plain overwhelmed but that's easier said than done sometimes. Even when I do walk away I am left feeling as you 2cats that I'd be better off on my own and I really just want to stay in bed and not have to bother with anyone or do anything.
I don't know what the answer is, just ride it out I guess and know that these feelings will pass as they usually do for me which is why what Hurdity says makes a lot of sense and don't be too hard on yourself. I don't know about you but my teenage daughter isn't always the easiest to live with and she has outbursts too but I love her all the same. x

[rosebud57]

Sorry carol24, but I can't agree with you. 'Just riding it out' is a very bad idea as I know very well.  That's what I did and ended up in total melt down.  You would not say that for a broken leg or chest pain so why for this degree of mental distress. 2cats, by her own admission, cannot cope and needs proper professional help.

[2cats]

I'm mid 40s hurdity and do have my ups and downs even though Hrt has helped me so much.  As far as I know I'm perimenopausal still but unless I stop the HRT I guess I won't know?  My oestrodot patch is 50mcg and I have gel to top up if I think I need it, but too much oestrogen can cause problems so not sure what to do!  I've been using cyclogest pessaries for a while and I'm about to try utrogestan...some months I think Prog. is the problem, then others I'm not so sure....

For quite a time now I've been much better at remembering to let things go as I know it is not good for me to get stressed as the result is what I'm experiencing now.  Unfortunately, I seem to have forgotten this lately and several situations in quick succession, occurred where I did not take a step back and the cumulative effect is that I now feel terrible. 
Carol 24 -  you're right these feelings often do pass and thanks for your honesty as it is always a relief to hear that there are others who are experiencing similar. 

For now, I am going to practise some restorative yoga poses to try and calm my nervous system, keep some valium handy for the really bad times, kick as much sugar out of my diet as possible, stay off progesterone for a month and see if that helps.....
Thanks for your replies all,

[bev567901]

2cats that feeling is horrible isn't it. I just keep in the back of my mind that this did go away eventually. I cried at everything & couldn't even make a meal. This was not like me & I am
Sure it is not like you either. Not sure what helped the most an AD, HRT, help sleeping or just time but I am 100% sure it was hormonal. Keep plodding along, keep a journal & I am accepting stuff now not fighting against it. One day I am sure that more even keel will be back, I hope !!!! Xx

[2cats]

Appreciate your supportive comments bev567901.  Taking each day as it comes atm.  You are so right that acceptance is the key, not fighting it!  I found this out a few years ago but having felt better I seem to have very quickly forgotten this important lesson!!  Thanks for the reminder.