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[Joyce]

What would our OHs do if we weren't about?

My hubby has been trying to organise a trip to see grandkids. Due to work commitments he can't go same time as me. I'm going to cover October school holiday. First he faffed over dates with daughter, she's a nurse so doesn't know her shift pattern for time in question, but told her dad just to go ahead anyway as she'd sort something out. Hubby says he's waiting to see if she's off. She tells me he can go ahead, no point hanging about as flights increasing daily.  So on he goes online. Now us ladies generally read all instructions for things, men generally do not. So next thing I hear is a loud ARGHHHHHH from bedroom. He's in a pickle, can't figure out why it keeps bumping him back. Errr that'll be because he hasn't followed all instructions and ticked all the relevant boxes.  Step in me. I rarely have these problems, maybe because I'm usually the organiser. Couldn't see his expression, but probably a "YEH RIGHT!" look.

Now my daughter on the other hand has been told by her partner she's useless at organising. Always messing up dates etc. Wonder if it's genetic.  Son is like me, good at organising stuff.

[babyjane]

I thought this was going to be 'what would you be doing if you weren't on the forum'. 

Right I've had a think and my darling husband would probably relax more and take his time over things without me going on at him. He would also become very sad as when he was away on holiday with our grown up children and I didn't go, our daughter said he had a melancholy sadness about him even though he was enjoying the holiday.

However he would not feed himself properly because he has no interest in cooking 

He would also play his favourite music whenever and as loud as he wanted without having to use headphones or wait until I am elsewhere (long story)

[Joyce]

Mine would live on microwave meals!  In fact the week I'm away that's exactly what I'll have to buy him. He can manage to put a pizza in the oven too, but that's about it. Think housework would be OK, but there would be books & newspapers everywhere. There are piles of books in our bedroom too , but that's another story.

[Taz2]

Well.. now.. having had the last three months not being able to do much after my hysterectomy and the first six weeks not able to do anything at all housework-wise I know that mine wouldn't clean the bath or washbasin, wouldn't clean any of the toilets, wouldn't wash any floors or change any towels or bedding but he would hoover through once a week and do the supermarket shopping and I've also discovered that he is more than capable of preparing vegetables and cooking - with enough instruction. He would also, apparently, spend a lot of time cleaning out the dispenser drawer in the washing machine and proudly show off it's immaculate appearance... 

Taz x

[Joyce]

Toilets are self-cleaning aren't they? 

[Taz2]

Whoops - forgot to mention the ironing.... twice in six weeks... and SO slow.. was very difficult to lay back on the sofa, eating grapes and galaxy and not say something..

Taz x 

[honeybun]

House insurance, bank accounts, car insurance,utilities.......ummm he would be lost.

He can cook really well albeit slowly. I'm sure he could work the rest of it out eventually.

He did live on his own for many years so he knows how it goes.

Honeyb
x

[Taz2]

I asked mine once, many years ago, and he thought for a while, winked and said "Find someone else to look after me"

Taz x

[Joyce]

  Haven't asked mine, but reckon he'd say the same Taz.

[honeybun]

The last time my hubby ironed I took a photograph 

The thing that would worry me most is his ability to remember health things.....prescriptions and carrying snacks with him. I do it and then he just expects me to.
My daughter says I should stand back but I simply can't. I have a fear of him running out of insulin or having a hypo when we are in the middle of no where.
I know it's a control thing but I'm damned if I can ignore it now. 



Honeyb
x

[babyjane]

Now ironing he would do, he has always done his own ironing since he retired 

[Taz2]

Whoops - forgot to mention the ironing.... twice in six weeks... and SO slow.. was very difficult to lay back on the sofa, eating grapes and galaxy and not say something..

Taz x 

6 weeks worth x very slow - how long did it take him?! (or is he still at it!) 

S x

He didn't do six weeks worth - he just ironed the things he needed.

Taz x

[babyjane]

sensible chap, that's what I do and why my husband does his own. Maybe should add that I am not slovernly but cannot physically hold an iron and move it repeatedly backwards and forward due to neck and shoulder problems 

[Joyce]

Have to say my hubby  does his own ironing. He moaned at my ironing of his shirts so told him to do it himself. Told kids at same time to do their own.

It's his organisation skills that are completely useless.

[catdude]

Well my husband has lived on his own a number of times over the years but I do sometimes wonder how he survived. Paperwork would just pile up, he's okay-ish on the computer but will get so far then ask what he needs to do even though he's done it ten million times before. He can cook well enough, dust seems to be invisible to him but he does vacuum and do laundry, although successful laundry to him seems to involve the sheer amount of clothes he can force into one load