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[honeybun]

Oh me neither.

Her latest complaint is very few of her carers know how to make Horlicks  . I have suggested hot chocolate instead as everyone can make that. She says she will give that a go but I'm fully prepared for the....I don't like hot chocolate conversation.

We have spent a long time today talking about Horlicks. 


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[Limpy]

I hadn't realised anybody liked Horlicks 
Well, you live and learn 

[CLKD]

I thought that Horlicks  went out with the Ark 

[gladys]

I feel your pain my late mum was like that she would say the most nasty things about me and my sister and brothers partners then when we told she other she would make up some excuse or she wasn't feeling well when she said it.but a lot of it hurt I have made mistakes in my life hasn't everyone but to keep getting it rubbed in your face.i think in the end she was bitter and angry over her life and the things she should have done.  big hugs to you 

[getting_old]

My mother is awkward. She was very spoiled by my dad over the years and when he died quite young she was lost for a while, but returned expecting to be just as spoiled. My sis and I fell into that and did what was required to keep her happy.

It's such a difficult situation. My sister told me that I can love our mother but don't have to like her and that hits the nail on the head.

I do what I do out of duty, and not a lot else.

Awful situation to be honest.

Honeybun
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I just wanted to say that your mother sounds a lot like mine - in my case my Dad and I had to do what she wanted otherwise she threw massive tantrums (and crockery!) so we just fell into doing what she wanted to keep the peace. I definitely understand the loving but not liking, and doing stuff out of duty. Fortunately I came to my senses when I moved away and discovered that not everyone behaved like she did, and I started to say No - it wasn't well received and she tried to guilt me into all sorts, but over time it was accepted.
From your threads you are doing everything you can for your mother, and more than a lot of people would so you shouldn't feel guilty about prioritising your husband and yourself.

[CLKD]

So now the ceiling needs painting ………  ………. you won't be offering then? 

[CLKD]

Did your Mum get over the fact that you didn't go because of roadworks?  Or did she moan a bit …….

When's your next trip there?

[CLKD]

OK - so you are in charge ?  do keep us up to speed on her moods etc. 

[honeybun]

She got her new hearing aids yesterday.

She told me today they make her feel there is nothing but space between her ears  .
Then she asked me how I thought they were working....well I'm not wearing them am I  .

Set to be an interesting week.


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[Joyce]

Sorry, I shouldn't laugh, but 

Good luck!

[CLKD]

  - how was she this morning?

[honeybun]

I'm not there until tomorrow. She didn't mention the hearing aids today so she must be getting used to them.

I await other daft comments though. It's trying not to laugh that's the key.


She is increasingly doing ditsy things though. Nothing drastic but amusing at times. The other morning when I arrived she was in the bedroom getting dressed. I called out I would put the kettle on and headed for the kitchen. She came through a few minutes later wearing a jumper and a pair of thermal leggings. I thought she was through to fetch something before putting her trousers on, but no she sat down and waited for her tea. I asked eventually if she was going to get dressed. She said no she was dressed. What about your trousers says me. I've got them on she says...ummm...no you haven't. She thought the thermals were trousers  . She was dispatched to get properly dressed. Goodness only knows how long it would have taken for the penny to drop if I hadn't been there.

Fun times 


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[CLKD]

Did it matter though? 

Looking forwards to hearing how the week pans out 

[honeybun]

It really mattered CLKD  . She was going around in her underwear. Trust me, not a pretty sight. 


Honeyb
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[CLKD]

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