Hello ,all you amazing,couragous females.
Ive decided to reignite my membership here as i have been given the news recently that my life is basically over!(Perri meno)
I really need to find somewhere to vent and moan and be actually" allowed" to just feel pissed off and talk about how pissed off i feel,without being made to feel bad..or like im being a baby who just enjoys feeling like sh**every day of her life on purpose!
I have been feeling rediculously under parr for atleast the last 10 months or so and initially i put it down to my extremely stressful job as a care worker and ongoing almost unbearable pressure and financial stress in my personal life which has been pretty relentless for the last couple of years,i finally "burned out "around 4 months ago after contracting about 3 viruses in a row with no break and having various issues with my heart(episodic tachiacardia) since xmas i had had about 4 viruses one on top of the other..i nearly passed out at work and went to see my gp who told me my blood pressure was low and ordered bog standard blood tests.
All of which cameback "normal" exept for signs of perri meno...i had also had had a skipped period at this point.
I preceded to spend a month in bed with various horrible and disturbing symptoms and i just couldnt believe that perri meno could makea person feel THAT ill!! But nothing else showed up at all and all ecgs are normal too exept for one which showed a slightly long qt which has since dissapeared..
anyway,needlessto say i had to quit my job which was no bad thing as it was horrendous anyway,although obviously added to already severe financial worry and trying to find work in this climate is a joke ..all made much harder when you feel like youve lost your vitality and vivacioucness and have nothing much left to give anyone.
Anyway,i absaloutely hate this..my kids cant stand me because all i do is get sick..i am in the middle of virus number 7 of the year right now!and all i seem to do is be in bed on and off as i burn out so quickly.they are fed up with listening to me moaning ..and to be honest im bloody fed up with them too and resent their lack of understanding !
even my friends i can tell are a bit distant as they are probly perplexed by their normaly loving, giving ,inteterested and empathetic mate being suddenly and selfishly unable to really give that much of a toss about everyone elses lives,(of course i do ,i just struggle finding the energy to show it) and always going on about what procedure im having to have next and what debilitating new virus i now have.
Im just wondering....why the bleep did no one ever teach me /us at school about how hideous this meno shi**actually is?
I mean im completely shocked ..honestly!
Also,is this "really" ..."normal" ?? to feel so down,so physically unwell,as if you are no longer yourself,and like you are dying..just because of a hormone imbalance?
Any answers would be massively appreciated...im 42 by the way..ive had a really difficult life and after doing some "work " on myself i was really ready to absaloutely embrace my 40s and enjoy them..and even though ive already had my kids and all that platitide stuff .now i just feel robbed yet again,like im a teenager having a tantrum. And like its all "downhill from here"
just to say...i am usually the one who is positive and upbeat.the one who people come to advice for,..and although can be prone to anxiety and depressions like everyone else..this negativity and bonkers (not in a good way)behaviour im feeling is really upsetting and the guilt is horrendous aswell..Even the woman in the local shop said "why are you always,getting ill?..its not right"lol (because of my coughing and wheezing )i said"well apparantly its coz of menopause.".and she said "well it shouldnt bloody be making you suffer THAT much ..thats not "normal"
Would love to have some feedback if you havnt already killed yourselves reading through this
And wish everyone well!