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[Taz2]

Facebook messaging is safe - nobody else can see it on your friends list. It is important to set your privacy settings though in terms of who can see and share your posts or photos. It's worth going through the checklist on your profile with a fine toothcomb and check it often as well because Facebook change the way they do things and operate an "opt out" policy where you have to take responsibility for what you allow.

It is possible to set your privacy so that nobody can find you although I think that defeats the whole idea of facebook to be honest.

Taz x

[Hattie]

Taz

Thanks - will check through the privacy bit now.

[minkusmum]

Hi Hattie
From my experience, a PM on Facebook is just that. My church has a private group, where we can share info which is sometimes personal.  It appears on the newsfeeds of people in the group, but not elsewhere. I also message the same people via FB and have never seen those messages pop up elsewhere. This is my experience, but I've never heard anything negative about FB messaging.

[CLKD]

How does one find someone on Facebook  - I have photographs to send but the person has moved so the envelope was, eventually, returned to me. 

[Taz2]

It depends on how their privacy settings are set. Google their name and see if it comes up. Are you on FB?

Taz x

[CLKD]

 

Not really.  I drop into our village group to read but can't post for some reason  probably best that I can't   

[Taz2]

If you are on FB then just go to the search facility at the top of your own page and put the name in.

Taz x

[CLKD]

 

[CLKD]

I am totally confused 

I had several friends on a list but out of 7, 2 remain the others have gone  .  I never clicked delete, they simply 'went'  but loads of people who I have never heard of, appear as 'friends' .............

[Hurdity]

Well either they've "unfriended" you on Facebook (you wouldn't be told this by them or Facebook) - or you them (in error maybe?). Re people you haven't either asked to be your friend, nor they you ( when you would need to accept their friend request in order for them to be your friend) - could your account have been hacked if you rarely use it, as you appear puzzled by some of your contacts "friends"?

However it is easy to send friend requests by mistake on your phone - which I have done! However your Facebook notifications should tell you if someone has accepted a friend request from you (white bell on blue bar at top of screen - red numbers tell you how many notifications you have!). If this is all a mystery to you - then I wouldn't bother with FB! If people you don't know appear as friends ( even though you didn't request them) just "unfriend" them.

If friends you want to keep have disappeared then just send another friend request perhaps with a polite message to say you seem to have deleted them by mistake and apologise (I've done that before to avoid embarrassment!).

Not that I use FB that much but I'm a member of a few groups....

Hurdity x

PS This thread seems to be in the wrong place as it's not about menopause at all! It's a chat topic!

[CLKD]

     It's here for security 

These 'friends' come via the village site  ........ names pop up that I have never heard off and occasionally someone that I know.  I can't even write a post  .......... but can read what is happening.  Give me a quill and Ink ......... I can kind of understand those 

[Mogster71]

Hey CLKD

How are you getting on with Facebook, did you manage to track down your friends?
Feel free to PM me if you need any help or want me to look x

If not Facebook, there are other ways, if you know job history etc you could try on Linkedin? A google search should bring up some profiles. Even better if they are not called Susan Jones or a name where there are probably 10000s!!