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[feah]

Hi, I'm new here but need some advice, guidance, support anything really as I feel abandoned by my Gp and very much alone.

 At the age of 44 I began experiencing symptoms of the menopause and for 2 years all blood test came back normal. Perscribed antidepressants (didn't work) I gave up on life because I just could not cope. I thought I had a terminal illness I felt like a zombie, name the symptom I had it. The most frightening symptom I had was thoughts of suicide after the breakdown of my family due to me basically.

I found my key board and researched perimenopause, at no point during those two years of hell did any Gp suggest that. I printed it off and went armed with information to my doctor who put me on ellest 2mg. Within a few months I began to feel almost human again. No sweating, incontinence, bleeding every two weeks, mood swings, feelings of hopelessness began to fade, weight came off and no longer did I think about taking my own life. My life was mine again and I could rebuild what I had destroyed through the menopause.

Now 48 life is good. I can function and care for my disabled child without feeling like every effort I make with my body and mind is such a struggle. Had a review with my Gp and he won't perscribe anymore as in his opinion, and I quote " the risk outway any benefits you feel"

I am devastated at the thought of my life going back to that limbo! At 48 its only going to get worse!!! Not better.... so I am left with no option but to buy off the internet, I cant go back to that, I feel so alone and scared, why is he doing this to me? For me I would rather live this part of my life feeling alive and happy than existing like a zombie into old age, so for me, the benefits outweigh any risks.

What can I do? I want the support off my Gp I dont want to do what im doing but I feel like im left with no option. Anyone out there gone through this? Can anyone advise me?

Rant over, thanks for reading

[Morwenna]

 

You're GP is talking rollocks quite frankly! Can you change to a different surgery? I don't know anything about buying hormones off the internet but would imagine it to be very expensive and also inadvisable because you presumably would have to keep it a secret from your doctor...   

[Suzyq]

See another doctor, ask for a referral to a specialist - buying privately would be a last resort (didn't even know you could do that!). Do you have any particular medical problems that make him think the risks are too high?

[CLKD]

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Change your surgery!  How old is your GP?  Is he a solo practiitoner or in a Practice of several and is there a Practice Nurse?  A patient's forum?

Have a word with a Pharmacist in your area to see how other Practices deal with menopause?

Hopefully you get support from the various agencies to help with your child? which will take some of the stress of the situation.

Have a read of the menus, left of screen.  Browse round!

[honeybun]

Change your surgery.

There is an email option to talk to Dr Currie who is the founder of this site. I think it costs £25 but she will give you very good advice which you can print off and take to your GP.
I would try this option before you buy off the internet.

You have been badly let down but you do have rights and sometimes you have to get very strong and extremely stroppy and demand what you want and need.
Your GP is talking rubbish and perhaps if you go armed with an email from Dr Currie he/she will listen.

Good luck and let us know how you get on.


Honeyb
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[Limpy]

Hi Feah

Is there another GP in your surgery you could see?
Failing that change surgery.

Point out that quality of life counts more than anything. You will assess the risks for yourself.

Remind him there is something in the Hippocratic oath about doing no harm.