Hi heldback1 and welcome
I'm 58 and had a premature meno (peri meno from mid 30s!!!) so had HRT from 37 till 49 then took a break from HRT for 3 years and then went back on HRT for another 4 and half years. I came off full HRT last November and my meno symptoms are that bad this time so I don't really want to go back on.
I started to get burning a discomfort vaginally from my early 40s and I now know that, despite being on full HRT, I was suffering from VA!!! I should have been using local oestrogen as well as full HRT! I had mentioned my urethral pain to several doctors (even at Menopause Clinics) and none of them suggested local oestrogen - VA is often not diagnosed and can lead to many longterm problems.
I have been trying various local oestrogen treatments to help with the burning - particularly burning urethra which feels like cystitis. The GP is concerned about the presence of blood in my urine so I'm waiting to see a urologist to rule out anything suspicious with the bladder. I'm not really concerned as I'm pretty certain it is VA causing the bit of bleeding from my urethra.
Vagifem is the preferred treatment for many women as it's easy to use. I have found that Vagifem, Ovestin and Gynest all make me rather sore - I think I'm reacting to the fillers in these treatments. At the moment I'm trying the Estring - I'm on day 3 of this - to see if I respond better. My feeling is that it's going to take some time for my whole fanny and bladder to recover from years of oestrogen starvation. I did read some research somewhere that said it can take up to a year for things to improve!!
Yes, the dosage of Vagifem in now very low so many ladies do use it at least 3 times a week. I think there was one lady who was told by her gynae to use it continuously for 6 weeks to start with because her VA was so bad but I wouldn't suggest you do this without profession advice.
There are a few self help things you can try alongside the oestrogen treatment:
Don't wash with anything scented - special intimate washes can be good or try using aqueous cream.
Drink plenty of water - particularly early in the day.
Use vaginal moisturisers e.g. Hyalofemme, Replens, Sylk, Multi-gyn Actigel - there are others - these help to keep the correct ph acidic balance in the vaginal area and reduces the risk of bacteria taking hold.
Lots of lubrication for sex is essential.
Look under the heading for HRT Preparations to the left of this screen - you will see a section for Vaginal treatments that may give you some info.
There have been various threads about VA which you could dip into.
VA can be miserable - I sometimes dread sitting down as I burn so much.
By the way, I doubt that Vagifem would have affected your mood as so little is absorbed - it really is very localised - I expect you may be feeling low because you are in so much discomfort. Where do you get your eczema ? - I would have thought your eczema could be made worse by the lack of oestrogen, as your skin will be far more dry and sensitive. I have to use lashing of moisturiser all over my body these days or my skin becomes dreadfully itchy and flaky.
Depending on when your periods stopped, your oestrogen levels continue to fall beyond your last period and then bottom out, so for those ladies who don't get severe meno symptoms it can be a shock to get VA and skin problems when they feel they have sailed through without a problem - unfortunately these problems are very common and many ladies probably suffer in silence.
As the other ladies have suggested, I would still see the urologist to rule out any problems with the bladder and then perhaps ask to see a gynae for further advice. A gynae would probably want you to have the bladder checked first anyway.
Do keep posting and let us know how you get on.
DG x