Hi Flossie

I am wondering why you don't want to go onto HRT?
You can use bio-identical oestrogen as well as the progesterone (Utrogestan) that silverlady mentions at the end of her post. For most of the time I have only ever used these "natural" products ( ie products that replace the same hormones that my body makes). You can get these on the NHS so minimal cost.
This is what Dr Currie says about it on this site:
PROGESTERONE CREAM "Natural" progesterone cream is available on private prescription in varying strengths. Studies have shown inconsistent results on effect on menopausal symptoms. Claims for a protective effect on bones have not been confirmed. Women who take systemic estrogen for menopausal symptoms must also take progestogen to protect the womb lining from being stimulated by the estrogen. Progesterone cream is not suitable for giving protection to the womb lining and should not be relied on for this purpose..For most of us it is the drop in oestrogen that causes the distressing symptoms, and therefore oestrogen replacement is the only way to minimise or eliminate them.
There are several recent threads about coming off HRT - and for most of us it is our state of health and well-being for the years when we are going through menopause that are important - when we may still have children to look after, and demanding jobs as well.
As silverlady says progesterone does have a sedative effect - but that is only part of the picture.
If your periods have become irregular then why not think about HRT - we can advise on the types available.
Lots of us tried various "natural" remedies initially (I used Black Cohosh) and for some it seems to work for a few months, but eventually when our hormone levels drop further, most find that these remedies do not actually work!
Hurdity x