Aww, thankyou ladies for your help and suggestions, you are all brilliant.
Taz, I have mentioned my bloatedness to my gp and the urologist as I was worried about the possibility of ovarian cancer, (as my paternal Nan had it) neither of them seemed overly concerned, but I must say, I tend to agree with Milliemoo, that it is part and parcel of low estrogen as for the 3 months I was on the vagifem my stomach returned to its normal flatness and now that the vag has been stopped all the nasty symptoms are back, including my huge bloated tum.
I'm not really sure if I have the VA tbh, as I don't really have the dryness or burning, just pain in my back and stomach, constant need for a wee and the bloated tum.
Hurdity and Sarah, thanks for the great information, you have certainly given me plenty of homework, my aim is to be so well informed on the matter that my GP will have no option but to sit up and listen to my concerns. I have a week !! Watch this space girls !!!
Milliemoo, I have taken a tolterodine this evening ( will just have to put up with the dry mouth) but I will ask for the kentara patches next week.
everyone