Dancing girl, if the thread appears to have focused on the hot flushes and night sweats symptoms, I have assumed all the comments about symptoms which have such an adverse life changing impact apply to all meno symptoms and the thread can be read in that context.
And to make it worse no one can be sure how long we will have to live day to day with these awful meno symptoms :- 1 year 2 years, 5 years, or 10 years....?! That uncertainty is in itself is enough to make any sane person feel pretty miserable about things. From my perspective these quality of life reducing symptoms includes the extreme anxiety, insomnia and vaginal atrophy and all the others.
Also let's not forget the impact the meno symptoms have on our relationships with partners, family and friends and how they impact on careers and working lives. The latter can result in having to give up a career/job with all the emotional and practical and financial implications that result from that.
I think the comments about having the choice about HRT applies equally to all symptoms. I have read so many posts here of women who have to cope with high levels of anxiety and depression which are as quality of life reducing as any other symptom and can so easily flip into agoraphobia, and that no life to have to endure; or for our loved ones to have to deal with.
Relationships, both close personal ones and those in a wider social setting, are affected by how we feel physically and emotionally. For the majority of illnesses or conditions (clumsy language - but I hope you get my drift) which can cause us to feel rough physically and emotionally medication is available (and name me a medication which doesn't have a long list of side effects if taken in the long term). But somehow HRT has be stuck in the mire of the conclusions reached by HRT studies done over a decade ago and which conclusions which are now at long last being questioned and new more robust studies will hopefully now be done.
The more women who have the confidence to stand their ground about taking HRT, the more positive impact this will have on the medical professions' views. But, in my opinion, it is hard to be confident and stand up for yourself if you don't have access to good, up to date and robustly obtained information on the benefits and risks of HRT. Anecdotal information is useful but it is no substitute for properly researched published information. The absence of such information and the conflicting information currently available is a disgrace and it is emcumbent on the medical profession and researchers to undertake studies and provide in the public domain good clear information so women can make informed decisions about HRT.
I know from my own experience (and I have learnt so very much from all the women who have posted here) that for some of us, life is simply intolerable without HRT. And what is there to be had in terms of real enjoyment and rejoicing in our lives, and the lives of those close to us, when meno symptoms can cause such day in day out misery?
I applaud the resilience and courage of some women here who have had a much much worse experience of all stages of the menopause than I have. You are truly amazing. But I am so sorry that for some of you the suffering continues because you have been unable to access HRT. What torment that must feel like.
So that's all the more reason for places like this forum to provide support and a place to exchange personal experiences and information; and to just be able to vent in a safe environment with others who understand how meno symptoms make us feel and how we have to live and adapt our lives in all sorts of ways to overcome this and make things better for us and our loved ones. This forum is a fantastic way of giving mutual support so it comes as no surprise that Dr Currie is participating in some way in the NICE study. I hope that there will be a place in this study for consultation with women of their personal experiences and also the emotional, social and economic impact of untreated meno symptoms (e.g. unavailability of HRT, especially after the age of 60).
Rant over!
Lubylou