Hi missy

from me too.
Have you considered HRT? Your symptoms sound like typical menopause symptoms so it would be beneficial to change from the mini pill to HRT which would give you the oestrogen your body is likely to be deficient in, and eliminate or drastically reduce your troublesome symptoms.
If you decide to go ahead, and need any advice as to which type to go for then do ask us as between us we have experience of lots of the different types of HRT.
In the meantime there is a lot of really useful information about menopause on this site to read ( menu on the left).
You are right - it is not an illness, despite what some doctors would have us believe. It is a hormone deficiency, and how you choose to deal with it will affect how you cope with this next stage in your life!
Good luck!!
Hurdity x