Hi loubie40

Yes you're doing it fine!
Sorry to hear about the side effects. This could be due to several things. Did you suffer from anxiety and depression before the menopause or during your menstrual cycle or at all in the past? If the anxiety occurs during the second phase of the patches ie when you are on the combi oestrogen and progestogen ones, then it could be the progestogen in this brand of HRT doesn't agree with you and you could try a different type.
If it occurs just after you change from the combi one to the oestrogen only ones and just before your bleed - then it's normal pmt - but again you might feel different at this point in the cycle, on a different patch.
If you are feeling it all the time then it may be due to the fact you are still in peri and your hormones are fluctuating, or it could be that your oestrogen levels are too low - and to some extent this will depend on where you are in meno, how much of a cycle you still have or even how old you are.
It may be that you would benefit from separate oestrogen and progesterone so that you can increase the doses more easily? Are you doing everything else re diet, weight and exercise etc to make sure you are as healthy as possible at this stage in your life?
I am sure someone else will be along with advice re anxiety too - there are quite a lot of threads on this, so if you go to the home page of the forum and type "anxiety" into the search box, you will be able to read what's been said about this.
Hope this helps
Hurdity x