Oh Willow, I read your post and thought, my gosh, it sounds like me!
I am also caring for an elderly relative, (sometimes two!) plus being self employed, single parent and in a relationship where.......... just not sure yet as I feel very much alone at times, going through financial difficulties etc etc.......
Now as you all know on here, I suffer from low moods/depression and last year the GP put me on sertraline 50mg.............. now I will be honest with you and tell you that yes it did help me with the depression but to the point where I almost became unemotional (make sense?) and I don't think I even had the ability to cry anymore!
The worst side effect for me also was the tiredness from sertraline, the fatigue I felt. I normally do try to exercise andc found it really hard to do that and felt almost sluggish too.
So eventually I came off the anti depressant and have tried various forms of HRT.
I know exactly what you mean when you say the slightest thing can defeat you. I also used to be bubbly (and still can sometimes) but most recently I just feel low and down and overcome with everything. I would love for just once for someone to take away all my worries/fears/debts and say to me don't worry, I will take over............... but it never happens and never will (besides being in a relationship)............. so this year I am going to try to tackle everything best I can and thank you all for your constant support.
So Willow, I came off the anti depressants in the end myself.. I was feeling too detached from it all and whilst it did stop me feeling down, it kind of stopped me doing things too.
However, it is entirely up to you. They did help me sleep but personally I feel that when we are going through all this stuff in life not to mention menopause, to take a pill isn't the answer.
Also, I would still rather stick to the HRT route as opposed to anti depressants to be honest myself but the decision is yours.
As for Femoston Conti, I have been on the normal dose and most recently the ultra low dose, the first dose gave me bleeds and PMT however I slept well at night! Went on the lower dose and nights were disturbed so now on second day of Indivina
Please feel free to message me if you wish as we seem to be going through some similar stuff!
Hang on in there. I have good days and bad days and this place gets me through the bad days.
Love
Anna