You are certainly not alone. The recent NICE Guidelines for the treatment of stress incontinence estimate that up to 2/3 of women are suffering BUT ONLY 2% are 'known' to the health service.
Doctors also know that over 80% of cases of stress incontinence can be cured if you exercise correctly and restore your pelvic floor muscle tone but you wouldn't know it from the advice you get.
When Arnold Kegel gave us his Kegel (pelvic floor) exercises he said it was necessary to squeeze 300x a day AND AGAINST A RESISTANCE. Squeezing thin air, as physios recommend, will never get you anywhere. But you'll be lucky to find a GP who will refer you to a physio anyway.
In a recent survey 62% of GP practices just gave out an exercise sheet to women complaining of embarrassing leaks despite the fact that there are no clinical trials or NICE recommendations that show that handing out a leaflet is an effective treatment.
We have a situation where over half of new mothers still have the problem and there are an estimated 7 million women with stress incontinence. GPs hand out leaflets. The two facts are not unrelated!
This is only one clinically proven pelvic toning device available on prescription. In clinical trials the PelvicToner (£30) proved to be as effective as a 3 month course of supervised treatment with a physiotherapist. Most users noticed a significant improvement or cure in just a couple of weeks. The exercises take just a few minutes each day.
If you want the real lowdown on the farce that is 'post-natal rehabilitation' read The Kegel Legacy. It's only £1.99 on Amazon
Good luck