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[rosekay]

I always thought that a hot flush was something that went through the whole of your body, but I'm having sudden heat - coming and going like a very severe blush - just sort of shoulders/neck up over my face.  I feel it begin then it sweeps over and fades - is it the same thing?  I know I have to throw covers off at night to cool down  - I know it's a common thing, but it's not like I always imagined!

[Joyce]

That's the way some folk get them, in fact I still get odd one even though on HRT. But when I had an HRT break a few years back I could feel them rising from my feet. The odd hot face I can cope with though.

[Hurdity]

Hi rosekay - I never had whole body flushes as such - in fact I can't imagine them. Mine were pretty well as you describe - the flush part anyway. Mainly a huge but very hot and sweaty blush all over face and neck - but feeling hot all over too - though not a flush elsewhere as such. Definitely not copable with though because they are still very extreme and especially when they happen frequently. They are very debilitating especially when you get into the full throes of menopause. The night sweats were of course whole body overheating.

Hurdity x

[JeanneA]

Hi rosekay, I also get the flushes like you do, it makes me feel awful, I think hot flushes are definitely one of the worse symptoms of menopause.  Wht us women seem to have to go through, I never dreamed the menopause was going to be so bad.

I have sent you a private message. 

[smudgy14]

Hi there I am new to the forum so not sure if I am posting in the correct place or not aaargh.I am suffering menopause after surgery and taking a bit of getting used to ,,I can not take hrt and have to watch for herbal tablets as I am disabled and on a bunch of medication so I feel bit stuck, the worst symptoms are the flushes and sweats all I been able to do so far is get family to take back fans from their holidays ! I also feel really weepy not sure if this is from menopause or operation and close call with ovarian cancer not sure if I have not let myself think about it all and probably putting it all to back of my mind as still recovering and it all early days.If anyone has tried anything or has any tricks of the trade or just plain old fashioned advice I would be very grateful, I have a fantastic husband daughter and mum but it would be nice to hear from someone who been through it all ,and as I am not very mobile and not able to get out much due to disability and my husband my carer I just feel this is something else I am putting on my family .

[honeybun]

Sorry to hear you are having problems. Can I ask why you can't have HRT. There is a lot of confusion regarding who can and who can't. Dr Currie has an email facility and she is the expert. If you look at the home page you will get the details.
There really is not much that will take away the flushes except HRT. I do have a friend who has had success with sage drops. It might be worth a try. Also soya can be helpful. Every one is different.

There will be others along with lots of advice. You might like to introduce yourself in the new members section as your post can get lost in an already running thread.
Look around and join in. There is lots of support here.

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[smudgy14]

Hi honeybun thankyou for your post i can not take hrt due to history of breast cancer in several family members, but i also wanted to avoid it if i could as i am on so much medication for my disability so really did not want anymore in my system but cancer is main reason just dont want to take the chance especially after the scare i had which lead to my op.I will take your advice and post on new members bit now i am finding my  way round the site ,i am not the most tec savvy usually my daughter helps (mind you can shop ok haha ).I look forward to more replies and advice thankyou again for the welcome.

[smudgy14]

Hi  there I really hope this message is going to jeanneA I received a post yesterday {29th} I looked for how to reply on the message but could not see how to reply so have went into profile and posts so hope this reaches {told you I was not tech savvy}.
Thankyou so much for your reply my name is Elaine and I am 48 {49 in nov} ,all this started with a pain in my right side at the end of  last year after scan and raised blood marker{which put the wind up me } I had to have surgery I had what they thought were large cysts in both ovaries and needed removed but to large for keyhole so larger operation needed and possibly need hysterectomy but would not know till operation what was what.I had the surgery end of march and did get full hysterectomy and also a omentectomy the cysts turned out to be large tumours and I had abnormal cells in womb ,some fluid in pelvic area and omentum so I was shocked as surgery ended up as major ,but results are back and everything was borderline so no further treatment needed but keeping a check on me for next few years ,got my first 6 monthly check up in dec {merry Christmas !}.I think I am still reeling with everything and having trouble processing it all and the close call I have had and also felt less feminine which is daft as I was not having any more children guess the body and mind is are weird things.The flushes are the worst at the moment and weepyiness which dr says could be menopause and the scale of operation or both ,I do think I have still to sort things out in my head and accept it all but it is really hard , I am still recovering and in some discomfort my dr says a good 6_9 months recovery so I am only 3 months in so bit to go yet and I am finding it hard.I hear certain vitamins may help I take a mixed multivitamin but should I be taking certain specific ones any help on this gratefully received.I also hope that being able to speak to people in the same situation may start me on the road of acceptance maybe a good old fashioned unattractive snotty cry may help !.Thanks again for getting in touch and look forward to keeping in touch. 

[JeanneA]

Hi Elaine, I've just sent you a P.M.  x

[smudgy14]

Hi jeanneA trying to send you a reply to your p.m but not having any luck says i cant send personal messages but  maybe i am.doing something wrong any suggestions to what i can do.?

 

[JeanneA]

Hi smudgy just copied and pasted this from your profile:-

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All you do is press 'Send PM'  then you type in your message.  Have a look see if you can do it. x

[smudgy14]

Still not getting any joy just can not see anything that has pm on it when I do press reply it just comes up error occurred cant send personal messages aaargh ,may have to come back on tomorrow when my daughter in see if she has any joy .

[honeybun]

You need to have twenty or more posts before you can send a personal message.
Hope this helps.


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[JeanneA]

I didn't realise you had to post 20 times before you can reply to a personal message, thanks for sharing that Honey.  You will have to get posting then Elaine, I presume you are receiving my emails ok, you just can't reply to them?

[smudgy14]

Hi there jeanneA at least not losing my mind not being able to do a pm.sorry I  not replied for a while but have been bedded I said earlier that I am disabled due to a very bad back injury,surgery has not helped and can do no more it is just a case of keeping pain bearable ,nd my mobility is severly affected use a wheelchair and lots of different strong medications etc ,and I have been that busy looking after my tummy and forgot about my back silly me,anyway bit more human now.My flushes seem wee bit easier as the weather cooled down so I hope it stays that way ,I now have really bad memory and my concentration is soooo bad and some words bit muddled like know I want to say for eg Mario and say mary  a woman who my mum knows is having problems like that to so I presume these are some more delightful symptoms of the menopause ?.How are you keeping ,are your symptoms settled ?.I am still feeling really weepy and some days are worse than others,i am still getting some discomfort at different bits of my stomach,and mygroin joined in a few days ago aaargh,having disturbed sleep aswell with flushes and discomfort think that  not helping my mood some days I do feel so tired .I am also having a hard time coming to terms with my scar as it is like a giant question mark starting above the bellybutton ,round it and down to half an inch above pubic bone and all the staple marks,when my daughter first saw it she said it looked like a centipede so was named Cyril {we kinds daft family like that }my husband has been really good and says it doesn't bother him in the slightest but that not filtering through to me I guess just another part of it all to learn to get on with.I hope you are keeping well and thankyou so much for listening I do really appreciate it as you did ask if ihad friends to talk to but as my back problem got worse over the years and I was able to go out less and less and had to cancel many things they all just disappeared over time so I just have to rely on my family and sometimes they just to close to talk to you need someone who been through it that you can offload to ,so once again thankyou for listening to my inane ramblings.