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[Winnie]

Hi Folks,

Can anyone shed any light on whats happening to me now?  I am fine for weeks then seem to go to bed and wake up with wham nothings good enough, everything is a mess, nobody helps, how do I cope with this crap everyday when really nothing has changed from the day before when I managed fine.  This will last 2 - 3 days but gets worse as time goes on I am a horrible person to be around when it does happen.
I would like to say there is a pattern but it will happen within the month normally just before a scanty bleed.  On Hrt patches got an annual appointment with the doc but don't really know what to say or explain this. 
Thanks
Winnie

[Joyce]

I can be like this from time to time too. I have had hysterectomy and ovaries removed, so can't blame bleeds on it.  Sometimes I blow up and lose the plot, shouting at nothing in particular. Last time hubby got an earful for no reason at all. Not his fault. I ended up in tears. It was like a release mechanism for something I had no control over. Does that make sense?

[Winnie]

Yes that sounds like the same thing.  How do you deal with it or what do you suggest.
Winnie

[Taz2]

It sounds like pmt symptoms Winnie?

Taz x

[Winnie]

Yes maybe it is?  What can they do about it don't want antidepressants ? How long will this go on for any idea's anyone.  I hate this no two days are the same.
Winnie

[Taz2]

I'm not sure Winnie  -  I always suffered from bad PMT so the meno wasn't that different for me apart from the fact that as the flushes increased so the PMT disappeared. Then I started HRT and the PMT came back for the last ten days of the cycle. I found it comforting that all those years when I was rather uncertain that it was my hormones making me feel horrible really were down to hormones because the PMT symptoms started within a couple of days of beginning the oestrogen/progesterone part of my cycle. Which HRT are you on and can you see a pattern in your behaviour linked to the patches?

Taz x

[Joyce]

Fortunately doesn't happen too often. I try not to let myself get this far by walking away from  the situation, although that's not always possible.  The times I blow up are usually when I'm trying to rationalise the way I'm feeling at the time and someone says or does something which triggers me.  It makes me feel so awful and drained afterwards! Hubby has got used to my occasional flare ups, just as well!
I have always had a bit of a temper and if someone pushes the wrong button, well.......  I reckon that's my main problem. Hubby is laid back, so he just seems to absorb my moods.

[honeybun]

Sometimes it's good to get it off your chest and clear the air.

I bottle up stuff and I think that adds to my anxiety.  I don't really share my feelings. My standard answer is I am fine.

My OH is the same although he is a sulker. It used to drive me mad now I just ignore it.

I really can't remember the last time I lost my temper. In all honesty I think it would be better if I could off load occasionally.

I am more open on the forum than anywhere else. I think it's because I know I won't be judged.

Honeyb
X

[Winnie]

Here is two examples of how I feel:-  Wake up thinking what the hell am I doing with this idiot meaning my husband.  3 weeks out of 4 I can suffer him ?  The other one is I have just agreed to buy a house it was perfect my dream now its what the hell have I done that for it solve anything there just seems to no rationing in my thinking. I know next week I will be fine again.  Help !
Winnie

[CLKD]

Sounds cyclic to me.  EAT PROPERLY ..........  have a look at the UK-based National Association for Pre-menstrual Syndrome web-site - I was advised to eat every 3 hours 24/7.  That keeps the blood sugar levels even and stops the rages, dips and lows that we can go through if the body is hungry.

[jax]

I cant remember the last time i was like that....been GREAT mostly for a LOONG time then yesterday I woke up in bed feeling fine. Had a lie in, got up in own time and by time I got to bathroom the "red mist" gripped me. I could feel the irritation, anger etc climbing in me over what??? nobody there etc..
was struggling with it all day and in evening started with Palpitations and anxiety again...on top of that I had the worst night of monster hip pains (havent had that for an age either)
Today feel exhausted and weepy. What I am trying to say is hormones can spike or dip almost instantly and cause a big blip...2 months ago i had a blip but I settled within 2 days and been fine again since...MENO IS A PAIN!!!!

[CLKD]

Low blood sugar can cause similar symptoms 

[Firewalker50]

Hi Winnie

I recognise all you wrote so well - although did not at the time.  Okay and can cope .... to ..... light, touch and flare!

That has settled down significantly.  I did notice levels of anxiety and worry creeping in on a monthly cycle.  When I realised it was cyclical I am aware of it and seem to be able to manage it easier now.  Perhaps the supplements I take also help to minimise it.

What CLKD has written about diet at those times is very true - well in my experience.   
And as she says - blood sugar can encourage mood swings.  My father was extremely bad tempered when his sugar levels were high.

I was miserable with PMT and with the menopausal tension and feel much better now.  I hope you find a way to manage it.

Fx

[Winnie]

Hi

Had to start taking Evening Primrose and Starflower for the GLA content had terrible pains in my bust that would make you cry.  I remember having this befor and ended up at the breast clinic to be told this was the best thing to take for it you need a high GLA content.  I think its tailing off a bit now only been on it 4 days.  As for the moods feel a bit better I have been eating quite regular will soon be the size of a house you can't win.  As long as I feel better I don't care.  Hope everyone is getting some of the better weather it does help a little. Lets see what this month brings mood wise can't wait.  Thanks everyone for your support.
Winnie

[Joyce]

You are sounding more positive Winnie. Long may it continue.