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[CLKD]

I wouldn't be able to remember what I was shown.  Many years ago in my teens I was able to do 'all that', i.e. wire a plug, unblock drains, re-site a ball valve in the cistern ........ but I have a husband who does  and simply tells me to 'get a man in' if he dies 

[CLKD]

On a slightly different tack about getting older - about 6 years ago I decided I would like a motor/camper van so we spent 3 years looking, debating, deciding - then didn't buy one for several reasons, logical at the time.  6 months ago I was left a nice sum of money which went into the slush fund.  Yesterday I found a small camper which would suit us better than those we looked at previously but DH has said 'no'.  We have to wait until we see what is left when Mum has used her Pension etc., but I feel that she may require long-term nursing care, or I will be too old to enjoy a camper if she lives to be 100      ........ he hasn't noticed but I am not speaking to him this afternoon 

[Taz2]

I remember you talking about this before CLKD. Have a look back at the "caravans" thread started by Babypink a while ago just to make sure you really do want one!

Taz x

[Melbury]

I think about mortality all the time. 

Never used to cross my mind until OH was nearly killed by the NHS six years ago and has been suffering the consequences ever since - am I bitter about it?  Yes I am, even though it only makes me miserable.   He has to have another operation this year and I just keep thinking that I will be left on my own (bit selfish maybe).

This was supposed to be our time, but due to his health problems we can hardly ever go out and going away anywhere is a complete no no, so I just get to thinking that this is it and wondering how and when the end will come and which of us will go first. 

I don't want to end up in some grotty hospital ward in pain sitting in my own mess

[Evenstar]

I wouldn't be able to remember what I was shown.  Many years ago in my teens I was able to do 'all that', i.e. wire a plug, unblock drains, re-site a ball valve in the cistern ........ but I have a husband who does  and simply tells me to 'get a man in' if he dies 

I have a husband who says he going to do things then doesn't so I find it much quicker to just do it myself without asking him in the first place

[Taz2]

He's not daft is he?? 

[Evenstar]

He's not daft is he?? 

No, he has me trained well I think

[Evenstar]

I probably ought to perfect the poor helpless woman act. Do something hopelessly in front of him and wait for him to take over

[pixie]

Nobody showed me how to do it, just talked to the man in local iron mungers. Learnt plugs and ceiling rose at school. I won't mention what I had to do with loo but was chuffed I did it and spent nothing.

I feel happier living on a bus route and on the level, when old. Got circle of reliable friends but strangers can be v helpful just need to keep an open mind and help
 others too.

[CLKD]

I can see our time slipping away sometimes: DH has been retired 18 months now    ...... and our feet haven't touched the ground 

[joyce21]

I used to (and still do sometimes) about dieing, when I was younger I would content myself by saying I'm too young for this pain to be anything serious lol, but as I get older it's getting harder to say that (I'm 52, and jusr starting the meno) I lost my 1st husband a few years ago , he was only 51, and when I was at his bedside saying our goodbyes I kept saying you can't leave me I can't even change a plug, he was an electrical engineer, so i'd never had to even learn, but it's amazing how you adapt if you have to.
Now i've met and married my new hubby I've got the worries again, I want as much time as possible with him.
I used to ask my nanna (she lived till 87, a very full and active life as well) if she was scared to die, she would say, no i'm not bothered I've done most things I wanted to do, and if I havn't by now i've only myself to blame.

xx

[Evenstar]

Both my Grandparents lived until their mid nineties. My Nan was always saying things like' Oh this will be my last Christmas' !! bless her
   She was fine until she got into her nineties and things really started to ache and get her down. She used to say she'd had enough then and was ready to go

[Elena]

I want to do more. I'm not content with my life.  But I dont seem to have the will or the money

[Evenstar]

I want to do more. I'm not content with my life.  But I dont seem to have the will or the money

I have the will but definitely not the money!!

[honeybun]

What is it you would like to do Millie if you had either will or money.

I find my anxiety is very limiting. Lots of the stuff I want to do costs nothing.

I have never had any great desire to travel the world but I would like to be able to socialise again.

I also lack the energy. I make plans in my head especially in the evening when I am feeling reasonable but when morning comes they just fade away.


Honeyb
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