My husband calls me "goddess" and says he worships me! He tells me he loves me every day. (fingers down throat everyone!!!:sick02:) He loves to cook so he does all that. He will iron shirts and trousers when asked. He often runs me a bath with bubbles and candles "just because"! and sometimes buys flowers from Tesco when he's out..."just because he knows I like them". I can be exactly who I am around him - like mushyjam49 - that would be "challenging" to say the least! Bearing in mind we work together in our business in a tiny office, so we are together 24/7, I would say he has the patience of a saint! I think the best thing that has helped is that he has been very understanding and caring about the changes in our sex life and how I feel about my body. Loss of libido has really confused me. I don't think about sex but I know I should, I don't often want it and that upsets me...and I am worried about how he feels...it has been the most conflicting bit of the change for me. We discuss everything and I mean everything about our lives which when you have challenges has to make it better, right? He never seems to judge me.
We laugh at some point every day even when I am in the depths of depression (which is/has been often since we met) he can usually raise at least one smile. If I am having a really bad day he says "go have a lie down, I'll hold the fort" or "put your shoes on, we're going for a drive". Obviously we can do this because we work for ourselves. People think we are a bit weird because we are always together.
As far as he is concerned I am pretty smug because I have a totally wonderful husband! - he does drive me mad occasionally but there are no real gripes, although when he has had his moments they are spectacularly bad! We have been married 19 years in May and it is a second marriage for both of us...looks like we got it right second time round. Reading this, it sounds amazing - well it hasn't always been, he has a disassociative personality disorder which reared it's head often in the first 8 years of our marriage but only 3 times in the last 10 and our lives have been filled with illness and a lot of dead relatives. I suppose my meno isn't that bad against all that. I would be totally lost without him.