oh dear, so sorry for you all having such difficulties, thought my time was rough.
Sorry cant remember who said what now, but my Mum is another who refuses to mention her chest pains, she got told off by community matron last week as it is looking like she had a bad angina attack and did nothing about it, my Dad also has to do as he is told and not phone for help. Mum is getting a bit 'odd' of late, I had her urine checked again last week and it is not an infection, so the 'mind clinic' were on the phone to her, matron must have called them, they then phoned me to make an appointment for assessment, got it all sorted out and they have sent her a letter from the 'dementia clinic' so she flipped this morning over that one, just hoping I can manage to get her there as its another 3 weeks off yet. I think its dehydration as she will not drink enough, but having said that she is asleep more than awake these days so simply forgets.
I now know why I struggled for help then, as I am the daughter and live locally it is expected then. I am also doing a bit for an elderly couple who' dog I walk, they have family but seems they are left to it.
Hope you all get the help you need, and a bit of restbite needed for us all I think.