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[Anne B]

You are so right. Daughters are wonderful and mine is an only child so feel she is having to cope with an out of control mother with no support.

Cheers
Anne B

[Anne B]

Think you're right, I have to sit and talk to her. We are very close and normally confide in each other but I have been trying so desperately to protect her. I've always been a strong person but don't feel like that anymore. Will sit and have a heart to heart with her tonight.
Thanks
Anne B

[paisley]

I told my daughter, in fact I couldn't keep it from her, she was worried and wanted to know what on earth was wrong with me, she was so sympathetic and did lots of research for me on internet, for such a young person she was very understanding. Now I have to E-mail her cos she isn't with me. I E-mailed the other week when I felt so awful coming of ADs and she E-mailed back with reassurance

[Horsie]

Thanks Mac
I know I am in meltdown at the moment. Getting fedup with myself moaning all the time and I know there are a lot of women out there with their own problems to deal with. Feel I have become such a self-centred person over the last few months and I know the real me is still there waiting to resurface.
My family are suffering through this as well and sometimes I lose sight of that.
I hope you continue to improve. It just seems like such a neverending journey doesn't it?
Wonder if I will look back on this and laugh. I hope so because need to regain my sense of humour.

Anne B

Anne B - I could have written your post!

[Horsie]

AnneB, Mac & Paisley - am thinking of you as we all seem to be really going through it at the moment and thought you might like some of these 

[mac]

Hi Ladies
Your right Horsie we are going through it but with support for each other we will get there.  I hope your feeling a bit better and have had a good day.
Anne B  if you go back to the begining of this tread you will see that i felt the same about worring my family and not there for my children, my daughter is only 14 but i have spoken to here and reassured her that this is only a phase and I will get better.  We are close and I didn't want to worry her at such a young age but talking is good.  I've always been the strong one but i've realised I am not super human and need help.  For the last 3 months I've been like what Mrs P has described and pushed people away which has not helped my meltdown.  Your daughter will just want her Mum and will understand.
I'm still coming to terms with the menopause and I don't know if I ever will but I have to find a way to cope and the Ad's are the first step towards that.
You are in my thoughts and I hope you feel better soon.

Paisley my son is 12 and i have difficulty dealing with that age, I don't know how on earth you are managing to cope with a 4 year old and deal with the menopause and everything else you are going through.

Macxx

[Anne B]

Mac & Mrs P
Thanks for your advice. Sat and spoke at length with my daughter this evening and it was obvious she was very worried about me and didn't know how to help. I reassured her that things will get better and she is a great comfort to me by just being there and giving me hugs when I am losing it. I think she is distressed at seeing her Mum in a vulnerable state since previously I have always been a strong and vibrant person.
We cried buckets but it was good therapy. She is away to bed and I'm still sitting in tears.
She is a very quiet and private young woman and hasn't spoken to her close friends about how she feels. I've encouraged her to do so since I'm sure her girlfriends would be a great support to her. She hasn't socialised much in the last 6months because she said she didn't want to leave me alone. I have told her she must have a life of her own. No point in the two of us sitting miserable at home all the time!

Looking forward to better days.

Anne B

[CLKD]

Can her friends visit occasionally, so that they see the route we all travel?  A little light laughter around the house would be good for you both 

[Anne B]

Thanks for your kind thoughts and advice ladies.
I appreciate the support I get here as otherwise would feel quite isolated.

Anne B

[mac]

How are you today Anne B

Macxx

[Anne B]

Hi Mac
Not too bad at moment. Hopefully that continues and don't have a repeat of yesterday's nightmare. Changed patch at 5am this morning, only another million to go!
How are you?
Anne B

[mac]

Anne B  so glad your feeling a little better, long may it continue for you. 

Mac

[Horsie]

Hi Anne B, seems like you're having a better day today, I'm very pleased for you  and hope that it stays that way.
Mac & Paisley - how are you today? Good I hope
I've had not too bad a day today with a few periods of feeling a bit odd but my problem at the moment is that I'm bored and restless which is unlike me normally - I hate it.    Does anyone else feel like this?

[mac]

A better day Slight blips but manageable may make it home after all, here's hoping.  I know what you mean Horise about being restless and bored but then i don't have the energy to do much, but I am back to my walks in the evenings.

Seeing GP tomorrow.

Mac

[Anne B]

having a bad day. Major flushes/chills nausea, headache and not surprisingly feeling anxious.
When will this damned patch start working.
Sister is supposed to be visiting this evening but to be honest can't be bothered.

Hope you are all having a better day than me.
Anne B