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[mac]

Hi JJ

Thank you for your kind post.  It is a difficult time and so very difficult to deal with.  Are you taking HRT.

mac

[Horsie]

 A very big  to all you lovely ladies who have replied. It is such a comfort to be able to come on here and realise that I'm not alone in my suffering. I had no idea that this stage could be so awful because no one warns you or even talks about it. I have lost a stone and a half in the last couple of months and I'm told how amazing I look but no one sees how you are feeling inside do they? I do as others have said and that is to cut the day down into chunks and not look too far ahead but that's not the easiest thing to do sometimes. I generally feel better in the evenings but then have a small feeling of dreading how I'll be tomorrow 
I am sending my very Best Wishes to you all along with positive vibes for better days ahead x

[JJ]

Hi mac,No not at the moment, gp offered hrt, or ads, or beta blockers , she did say I could combine hrt and ads but in the end we decided best to start on one thing and then if I wanted to I could add on, but at the moment I'm so much better than I was that I don't want to try anything else , this may change so I'm keeping an open mind. I know exactly how your feeling though and  I imagine at the mo your feeling like you never going to feel right again, hormones have such an impact. I think once you read through the posts on this site you do begin to realise your not unique in feeling so dreadful and you find ladies who are experiencing or have experienced exactly how you feel.

Last year I couldn't eat without feeling like I was going to be sick, had to have tea spoons of houmus , nibble on breadsticks, lost lots of weight, some days I was literally clinging to hubby sobbing. I'm pleased to say I no longer feel like that. I have jittery days, hot flushes,  mainly of an evening but sometimes of a day, and I don't sleep as well as I used to, but generally speaking its such an improvement that those sysmptoms are manageable. I'm very hopeful that eventually I will have passed through peri menopause and my body will adjust .

[Horsie]

Thanks JJ for your great post, it does give me hope that all this WILL pass at some stage. I have lots of times when I feel fine but when I'm bad it seems to set me right back and it's then hard to believe that I'll feel OK again.
Mac - you describe just how I feel - irrational is the word 

Off to bed now and have everything crossed that we'll all have a better day tomorrow. Thanks to everyone for your support as it means a lot to me x

[mac]

Havinga very bad day.  Got up feeling fine, trying to keep myself occupied very anxious and it doesn't help that I'm on my own.

Mac

[Anne B]

Hi mac
On my own as well and feeling rubbish again. I find it quite difficult to keep myself occupied since still not physically able to do things like housework or go out for too long. This heightens my anxiety and is hard to deal with. This is the 6th month of being virtually housebound and is driving me up the wall. My partner is at work and won't be home till 10pm and my daughter has spent a weekend away with friends. Who knows when she will be home and in what state!
Am going to watch even more TV. What a prospect!
Hope your day goes in fast and you feel a wee bit better.

Thinking of you
Anne B

[JJ]

Hello, I'm a bit jittery this morning, tedious isn't it. So what can I do to distract myself, going to do a bit of painting and then take it easy. Don't be too hard on yourself ladies when you feel rough. Remind yourself it's all going to pass , eat little and often and try to keep your brain focused on something other than meno symptoms, a challenge I know , it can be all consuming, but you will get through it.

[mac]

Hi AnneB
It seems to be worse in the morning, trying to eat every couple of hours and trying to ignore my aches and pains and the constant gurgling in my abdomen .  How on earth have you coped for 6 months, you must be a very strong person.  I feel like a whimp.  I'm watching tv as well.

Hope your day gets better too.
mac

[JJ]

Mac, you'll probably feel bit better as the day goes on. There's the big jubilee concert on tonight, that might be good. X

[Anne B]

Hi mac
You certainly are not a wimp. Dealing with these feelings is hard and everyone copes in their own way.
6 months of inactivity is certainly a long time - too long for my liking. Have a challenging full time job in the NHS that I will have to return to hopefully within the next 3 months. Have to get the dreaded hormones sorted.
I am now totally convinced that since I am a smoker (I know that's bad especially as I work in a cardiothoracic hospital) that my oral HRT is ineffective. Low oestrogen is contributing to my stress and anxiety and I will beg the GP for patches which hopefully will be better. I know I will have to address my smoking but at the moment too many changes have happened to my body in the last few months.

Am going to force toast and banana down my throat, get dressed and go for my daily short walk to the corner shop for a bottle of Irn-bru (gave up my beloved diet Coke and coffee in a bid to be caffeine free)

Take care of yourself
Anne B

[mac]

Your post sounds strangly familiar.  I work for the NHS also in a very challenging role, although at the moment any knowledge I have as gone out the window!!!  I also smoke and have given up coffee and any drinks like coke . It is recomended to cut down on smoking and if you can stop but now is not the time.

Enjoy your walk.

Mac

[Anne B]

Mac
Have bought e-lites substitute cigarettes but they take a bit of getting used to. Think I will have to gradually introduce them.
I really miss my diet coke but funnily enough even the smell of coffee now makes my stomach turn.
I miss my work , well not work exactly but the people and a routine in life. Saying that I feel a bit nervous at the prospect of returning - will feel like being the new girl again. Have this feeling of dread that I will not be able to cope. Was always active and in control and felt I was competent at work. Time will tell.

Have a good day
Anne B

[Bette]

I had a few months off work during my "peri meltdown" and was pretty scared about starting again. I did so once my HRT was starting to kick in and now, 2 years on, am really enjoying it again. I was very lucky in that being self-employed/freelance, I was able to ease myself back into it. I had a few blips and sticky days but listened to my body and did things when it was right for me.
BTW, I don't know if you've seen this thread about giving up smoking:-
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/forum/index.php/topic,8252.0.html
I'm sure that you're right to wait until you're feeling better to try but hopefully this might encourage you once the time is right for you. 
Bette x

[Anne B]

Thanks Bette
Will read the thread on smoking. Didn't smoke for a month after hysterectomy because was so unwell. Wish I hadn't started again. Think boredom with being in the house myself most of the day has a lot to do with it. Also willpower which I seem to lack in at the moment. I know I can do it when the time is right for me.

Many thanks
Anne B

[Horsie]

Hi AnneB and Mac, I'm sorry that you felt so bad yesterday, I had the odd blip myself but it went quite quickly.  It is so difficult to focus on anything else isn't it when you feel like this? I try but it sometimes seems all consuming. I'm hoping that I won't be too bad today and I wish the same for both of you and everyone else who is suffering x