When I started experiencing terrible VA 3 months ago, my husband of 17 years backed off asking for sex and trying to initiate it. He tried to be supportive by just putting aside his own physical needs - which is incredibly hard for him (he wants sex ALL the time).
The other day he told me that he feels 'cut off' and I told him in a way, he is - at the moment. Until I can get the bladder and vaginal symptoms under control and pain free enough to consider sex again. He has been very accepting and whilst I know he is struggling; he realises he has no choice right now but to be supportive and kind.