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[Deltabit39]

Hi, I am new here but I really need another point of view.  I am so depressed at the moment, I am 53 and menopausal but I can't find a way forward. I am stuck, all I see ahead of me is old age and pain. Does anyone have any ideas how to get myself out of this? Has anyone experienced this? I am on medication but I am not working at the moment, I have always worked in professional kitchens but the work is crippling me now.  The only problem is, I don't have experience of anything else so what do I do?

[Losingtheplot]

Hi, I am new here but I really need another point of view.  I am so depressed at the moment, I am 53 and menopausal but I can't find a way forward. I am stuck, all I see ahead of me is old age and pain. Does anyone have any ideas how to get myself out of this? Has anyone experienced this? I am on medication but I am not working at the moment, I have always worked in professional kitchens but the work is crippling me now.  The only problem is, I don't have experience of anything else so what do I do?

Hi there,

Welcome xxx

Big hugs to you, I can totally sympathise, depression is such a debilitating illness as I have suffered it so many times, so I understand what you are going through. Life can be so hard and it can be so difficult to see anything positive when you feel in such a low dark place. You are not alone in this. I try and focus on positives in my life when I feel dark clouds looming, my 2 dogs, my family and my great group of close friends. Depression is a cruel illness that robs you of all happiness and medication can help.

I am off work at fhe moment due to my anxiety and other menopause symptoms getting too much for me to deal with. Has been 2 weeks so far and every day is a struggle. The mental health side is the one taking the longest to settle.
What medication are you on? And how long have you been on it as maybe this needs reviewed. I am taking Fluoxetine and Ad's can take some weeks to help. I am also on HRT.

It is awful getting older too and although its a natural part of life it can be daunting. Especially when you are dealing with mental health issues. 
I understand you are concerned about work, and I feel your pain there. I work in an office and I also wish I could just stop working or reduce my hours atleast. I don't want to be around anyone when I feel like this as sick of putting a false act on.

Is there the option to maybe reduce your hours or if you are no longer in that role then looking at something else you feel you could manage and even if you don't have the experience that doesn't mean you won't beable to pick another job up. You have worked in a team of people in a professional kitchen so that stands for alot, as well as multitasking in a pressurised environment. So I feel alot of your skills will be transferable.

I wish I could help more. Continue to keep getting support on here.

[CLKD]

Morning.  I have a long thread about my depression somewhere on the Forum. 

R U able to tell us how old you are and what your periods are doing?  Have U had depression cyclically previously and is it worse recently?  Which symptom would U like to ease first?

Some find that keeping a mood/food/symptom diary of use to chart progress to remind us of the better days, is there a worse time 4 U?

Don't despair.  It's The Change, does what it says on the tin and although a natural aging process, some symptoms can be difficult. 

Perhaps get an appt with a Nurse Practitioner - take a list with you to discuss.  These appts are usually a little longer than with a GP and probably quicker to access.  Our Surgery has an on-line triage form to fill in which is reviewed twice a day.

I suspect that your skills are transferrable.