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[Fizwhizz]

Hello everyone, just feeling so down. I’m functioning through a wave of horrid depression and I feel flat and joyless currently. Just dragging my sorry backside through the day as best I can. I’m on HRT and due a review but just can’t seem to shake the blues off. I think for me HRT is part of the answer but I’m just finding life so tedious. The daily grind of chores, cooking, cleaning, shopping is so boring. Rationally I know only I can shake things up but am lacking the motivation to do so. Hopefully it will pass soon.

[CLKD]

Hi!  this too will pass.

R U able to let us know why you decided to take and for how long you have been on HRT as well as which regime has been suggested?

[Flossieteacake]

Hello Fizwhizz. I am so sorry you are feeling so low. It is such a horrid feeling. I notice with HRT that it can take time to find the right one and also the right dosage. I know that will not be much help to you while you are feeling low now but I just wanted to give you some hope.

Maybe you need to take things a bit easier? Chores can wait as once they are done they only need doing shortly after anyway. When I feel as you do, I never bother trying to get chores done as it is overwhelming. Perhaps you need to snuggle up and watch or listen to something just for you as a bit of light relief.

Reading back through your posts I can see you have felt this way since May last year. Have you felt any improvement at all and does your menopause clinic and GP know how you are feeling? You should not have to battle depression for so long.

[SarahT]

Hi Fizzwhiz,

Just wanted to send a hello. I know I can feel overwhelmed with day to day chores. I am only just working out ways to accept that I just do not seem capable of doing everything like I used to. I cannot multi task anymore. I try to prioritise what really needs to be done. What's the worse that can happen if I don't achieve everything I wanted to do housework wise?
I do get very anxious still about this but am learning to cut myself some slack. If I worry myself silly, panic trying to do everything I just make myself worse physically and emotionally. Then I am no good to.anyone, myself.included.
I try hard to fit in a walk, on my own, most days. This is my time. I no longer need to feel the need to justify a bit of time out, when I feel I am in a right mess.
I am simplifying the meals I make too. Healthy but not too time consuming.

Make that appt for your review, it is good you have felt able to have approached the forum for some advice and support. I do feel some more help from you gp is needed. In the past I have been on anti depressants and had some counselling, this helped me, as I know it does a lot of ladies on here. Please, I hope you never ever feel ashamed of having depression. It is a strength you show when you realise you are not so good and asking for some help.
 hrt can go a massive way to help physical and emotional symptoms too.  But I agree that finding the right regime can be hard, and it does take time to kick in. Am about to make a review appt myself as I definitely need some adjustments.

I wish you well

[Fizwhizz]

Thanks ladies. My depression comes and goes in waves and I’m sure it’s hormonal but also just general life stuff too. I’m too all over the place to unpick it. Hopefully my HRT review will help.  I’m on compounded private treatment. Whether this is the best option for me I don’t really know. I’m scared to change in the middle of feeling like this. I’m not convinced HRT is my only difficulty. I’m feeling bleak as I never went back to work but am not sure if that would be the answer, I’m a lonely only child myself with a limited support network of my OH and an ASC teenager. They just don’t understand what I’m going through and aren’t hugely emotionally supportive or very domesticated either  . Just feeling very sorry for myself but thanks for your kind words and thoughts. It’s helpful to be able to get it off my chest.

[Moonshine54]

Have you thought about having talking therapy ?
It can really help . Sorry you are feeling low sometimes small goals can help when you have no motivation  x

[ToriiJ]

Hi Fizwhizz,

I’m sorry you are having a tough time and I just wanted to let you know I feel exactly like you. This Easter weekend has been so difficult, I even had to duck out of a family get together as the thought of it just made me feel worse.

Not sure if HRT is for me, I had hoped it would help my mental health but it really hasn’t and in some respects has made it worse as I can’t seem to find the right dose.

Anyway I don’t want to go on about me but just wanted to offer my solidarity and let you know that you really are not alone. All of this will make us stronger in the long run.

[EllieJ]

Hello! Sorry you're feeling like this. One thing I've noticed since starting HRT patches is that one day I feel ok, the next I feel down. One day I'll have more energy, the next I'm exhausted - I seem to be working my way through side effects and am hoping that by the time I've been on this stuff for three months it will all have settled. I agree that having some form of counselling is a good idea - especially if you have stuff going on in your life that isn't hormone related. It is also great to be able to talk to people on here. All the best lovely x

[Welshmum]

Hi Fizwhizz,

Sorry that your feeling down atm. I wanted to jump on and say your definetly not alone. I feel the same as you. I told my Dr at last visit not sure if it's Hormones, hrt or life in general.

Take time out for yourself. I keep myself busy with housework. But there's only so much you can do. I'm also quite (female lonely). Got my husband and 3 sons and nope they don't understand.

It's so hard at this time in our lives. Sending you hugs.

Welshmum