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[Peri-wrecked]

Hello lovely ladies, I haven't posted in a while because I was just getting on with things and taking each day as it came. However, today has been an awful day. I woke at 5am because we had the storm and I couldn't fall back to sleep. I went to work and was in good enough form leaving the house but my mood went downhill from there. Halfway through work one of my colleagues kept asking me was I stressed over and over and over again and then proceeded to tell me how to do my job (I'm there years, they are knky in the door).....I had to bite my tongue and just walk away as I was getting a good bit done and was happy with what I had achieved. Anyway, when I finished work I went to collect my child from a family members house and while there this family member was being negative about my work (I got assigned another role dealing with the business website) in conjunction with my other duties which involves social media updates etc and instead of them being encouraging and positive about what I had achieved in just 2 weeks at the role , they were criticising everything.  Then when I stood up for myself I was accused of being "moody and cranky"........if that wasn't bad enough another family member arrived and proceeded to mention they had bumped into my child's teacher in the supermarket and that they had literally interrogated the teacher and discussed my child's poor grades in that difficult subject in the supermarket.....much to my child's embarrassment. That family member then told my child I was being very moody. Of course by this stage I was absolutely livid but kept my cool and headed for home. The only thing now is that I seem stuck in the rage of the entire day. My hearts been racing on and off and I can feel the anger over it all building inside me. Im so annoyed with the entire day and I know hormones are playing a huge role in how I am dealing with this.
I known my hormones are not at even levels. My gp reckons all women have jumped on the bandwagon since perimenopause and menopause have been publicised more and more.  Im early menopause and have been trying to find the Happy balance for almost 7 years now. It's draining!!!  I've tried patches and the coil, the coil and estrogen tablets and currently i am on the coil the combined pill.  I know this combination isn't right but I don't know what to ask for next.  I just miss my old self so very much.
I know I'm ranting mad now. I wish I knew what the perfect combination was. 😩

[CLKD]

Hi!   


I went to work and was in good enough form leaving the house but my mood went downhill from there. Halfway through work one of my colleagues kept asking me was I stressed over and over and over again and then proceeded to tell me how to do my job
. it's the unexpected queries when doing your job which leaves us without an instant come back.  Bet you knew what you wanted to say after !


Anyway, when I finished work I went to collect my child from a family members house and while there this family member was being negative about my work (I got assigned another role dealing with the business website)
. hand back the job?  "If you can do it better ......... "  do U need extra on top of a daily job?

......if that wasn't bad enough another family member arrived and proceeded to mention they had bumped into my child's teacher in the supermarket and that they had literally interrogated the teacher and discussed my child's poor grades in that difficult subject in the supermarket.....much to my child's embarrassment.
. off to the School pronto.  This is totally out of order to harass a teacher - you need to know exactly what was discussed from the teacher, the relative may have exaggerated etc..  This is beyond I would think, Data Protection and Child Protection if the teacher engaged!  Ask for a meeting with the Head of Year and this teacher.





Of course by this sta Im so annoyed with the entire day and I know hormones are playing a huge role in how I am dealing with this.
. Your situation is causing me rage and I'm not hormonal!!!!  Could you collect your child from school rather than relying on a relative? 


My gp reckons all women have jumped on the bandwagon since perimenopause and menopause have been publicised more and more. 
. this is out of order.  Change your GP or see the Nurse Practitioner at your Surgery.  A GP is not there to make such comments.

Im early menopause and have been trying to find the Happy balance for almost 7 years now. It's draining!!! 
. some find that keeping a mood/food/symptom diary useful to chart progress.

How long have you tried each HRT regime, some take 6-8 months B4 the body notices any difference  .  MayB decide which symptom you would like to ease first?  Let us know how you get on. 

[Peri-wrecked]

Thank you CLKD.......I know all your responses are correct.......it's been a crazy day!!! Before, I could just let these things go faster but I find it's harder to do that now. I know I need to switch to a more pro hrt doctor and get better help. It's just exhausting.  I miss how I was before and I was by no means brilliant then but I was so much happier in life.  On paper my life should be great now to how it was years ago. Onwards and upwards. I'll get there fingers 🤞

[CLKD]

The older we get the more we seem to take on  : children, elderly parents, job worries, general health issues and then The Change 

Little steps. If U can break down your days into chunks; sort out people that drain you: delegate ;-)

[Peri-wrecked]

Thank you CLKD, I have been trying to avoid the ones who are draining me.  Some just bring me way down.  This weekend has been very difficult.  I find some people deliberately try to push your buttons to get you annoyed or to make them feel better.  Either way i'll have to figure this out. I have researched a new specialist and hope to get an appointment soon.  I so love my job and don't want these moods to affect that.  I am working with 4 definite perimenopausal women and 2 possible menopausal women and each trying to make their presence known.  Thank you for all you advice. 

[CLKD]

Make a list of those people in your life since C.mas
Tick the ones that might be useful to you
Tick the ones that might be useful to the children

Put the others on the back burner.  Even if it means altering your routines, "I'm sorry but I am needed elsewhere".  When people push for info "You are not on the need to know list" usually works ;-)

[Vicky81]

I know how you feel!

I am peri too (only recently diagnosed 17th Jan) been given Femoston 2/10 - on day 10 today.

Work - oh my days....people seem to bombard you way more than normal!! I had to go down the changing rooms on Friday to have a cry! Its not like me at all, i was never a crier. Have developed social anxiety too, so i hope the tablets will lift this xx

[Peri-wrecked]

Hi Vicky, it is awful isn't it. I haven't cried at work but i have cried a lot at home down through the years. I hope the femosten helps you. Do you mind me asking how old are you? I'm just curious as to if you are close to my age (39) qnd how your gp decided on femosten ?
I hope it helps you  it's an awful time for women.

[Vicky81]

Hi peri

Just turned 41. Its been a huge shock and out the blue.

I've had a second opinion consultation just now over the phone with Dr studd's clinic in London and a dr Watson has prescribed me the estrogen gel (3 pumps per day), testosterone cream and progesterone tablets  so they are getting g posted out today.

Xx

[CLKD]

Vicky that's great!   MayB keep a mood/food/symptom diary once you begin the new regime?  Let us know.

[Vicky81]

Awww hi CLKD

Have you any experience with these gels? I've got bad anxiety and really want my mood lifted too xx

[CLKD]

I don't take HRT.  I do have an emergency anti-anxiety pill to swallow. 

[Vicky81]

Ahh ok.....do keep in touch xx