Yep.
I think people enter our lives for a purpose and leave. This is a new thinking on my part, say in the last 10 years.
When we married I moved 8 hours drive away across the country. Initially I wrote to lots of friends from College as well as 3/4 from early school days. Eventually due to time etc. the people I was writing to stopped replying so after a while I stopped. By then I had a new group to socialise with. Then we moved here in 1983.
1 of those people has kept in touch over the years. To begin with I would ring two friends every week ; DH suggested that I waited for a while to see how long B4 they contacted me. It was 4 months and then with 2 lots of bad news
. I was devastated, it took me 11 years to settle here
. There were never any arguments, people simply dropped off and I took it personally.
How content R U to drop these people? I kept in touch with DH's College group but in the last couple of years, haven't sent C.mas cards even though 1 couple stayed here regularly. Then contact dropped off. Lives move on I suppose. I keep in touch with the wife of another couple: the men don't bother
.
I have in the past been let down by my sister, a neighbour who I spent a lot of time with ........ we do have people that we can call upon if really necessary. People that we know in our various sports activities are 'friends' but we don't mix otherwise. DH and I have been together since 1970
and remain joined at the hip
.
We both have hobbies.