Hi! Sometimes gynaecologists don't know any more about menopause than GPs might. MayB take a list of symptoms to discuss at the appt.?
A drop in oestrogen levels can cause the body to become dry: inside and out; skin, scalp, deep in the ears, nostrils, eyes as well as muscles may become lax = aches and pains. Because the bone in the jaw requires activity to keep it healthy, otherwise the gums recede due to lack of exercise, it might be worth while having a check up with the Dentist. The hygienist can then advise as to gum care. Since having implants I've used those 'tip-ee' thingies to keep gums as clean as possible.
Could you be anaemic after heavy bleeds, also, how are your VitD levels?
In the mean time use cooled, boiled water with salt in as a mouth wash? Let us know how you get on.