Hi Chris
I had a hystorectomy when i was 34 i am now 54 and i thought that i would not have the menopause as bad as this. Mood swings the feeling that life is not worth living so on.... Does any one know how long all this lasts for or is it just different for everyone!
Does certain medication make the menopause worse!
I'm sorry that you are going through this, I know it is hard to make sense of it all sometimes. I too had an early hysterectomy and I too thought menopause? What menopause? I thought if you didn't give in to things then you would not suffer the symptoms (then I woke up LOL)
Unfortunately no one can say how long all this will last as each one of us is different and each one of us will adjust differently to decreasing hormone production. But Chris, one thing for sure is that it is *not* going to last forever, we all of us *will* get through this. I try not to think about how long it is all going to last as I find it depressing, as I cannot do anything or even judge it I refuse to give it head room
For one thing who is to say that you will not be one of those ladies that will go through quickly? It happens a lot more than you think it does.
Morphine is from a group of medications called opioids. One of the side effects of morphine is that it can cause histamine release, which causes itching of the skin and nose and a flushing of the skin, so I would say that this medication could have an effect on menopausal symptoms. Probably the best person to ask about this would be your doctor.
With regard to the quilt problem at night, have you thought about using two single quilts on the bed instead of one? This way your hubby can have a heavier tog and you a light one, if you got identical quilt covers then it would hardly notice in the day, or you could cover them with a bedspread/throw, I have thought about stitching two different tog quilts together so I could have the lighter and he the heavier. I do have the two single quilts on the bed though as I just cannot bear heavy covers on myself.
Mood swings are part and parcel of the menopause for *some*, I know this is a real hard one to get a grip of. If I feel one coming on (and I normally can) then I revert to breathing exercises and breathe my way through it and the feelings causing the mood swing start to lessen, if I can I will also remove myself from the situation which is causing them. It isn't easy, sometimes it is jolly hard, but it is obtainable. I also find that explaining why something has really upset me at a calm time to someone is beneficial and can help diffuse a situation before it gets out of control. I know sometimes when I have snapped I have seen the total look of bewilderment on my partner's face, so if I do not actually tell him what the problem is then he is never going to know and is like to keep repeating it.
The unpleasant feeling of thinking that life was not worth living is yet another reaction to decreasing hormone production, it is another symptom of menopause called 'gloom and doom'. You are not alone Chris many of us suffer with some degrees of this, from mild to severe. I had it and it got so badly I ended up suffering some unpleasant panic attacks. One of the most important things you can do for yourself if you do find yourself thinking like this is to actually recognise these feelings for what they actually are and once you do this you start to remove the fear from them and then you can start to get yourself out of it. I cannot say how much deep slow breathing can restore you and if you let it, it can do it quickly too. I did not want to take anti-depressants, for me it wasn't an option as ultimately I knew these feelings and recognised them for what they were and so did not think that anti-depressants would help me as I knew that at some point it was only me that would be able to get myself out of this. however, if you are feeling like this then I would advise that you have a chat with your doctor, I know it isn't easy and you probably do not want to, but please talk to someone if you think these feelings are getting out of control and don't forget you *always* have us on here, ready to help support you. (((Chris)))
Reading a little of what you have been through this past few years and now coupled with the menopause I am not surprised you feel like this sometimes, but you are not alone, we do understand where yo are coming from and a lot of us have been there before you, the upshot of this of course is that we have been through it and can categorically tell you that this does get better too.
You say you are taking HRT? I am wondering how long you have been on it and if it is worth you popping along to your doctor, the dosage may need tweaking or reviewing and this may be all that is required to help you get back on an even keel.
Meanwhile remember that you are *not* alone and we are all here to support you. Chin up
Lots of Love Pops xxx
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