I'm not sure if what I have to say is any help When I have increased my oestrogel I have had sore breasts (no nausea for me though). When I went from 2 to 3 it was particularly bad but I have now been advised to go to 4 and when I increased the dose then there was no problem. I am currently always on 4 pumps and no sore breasts at all. The body has adjusted. I couldn't cope on 2 pumps, flushes etc and 3 still wasn't enough either so 4 it is. (someone on here also told me you can do up 6 as a max)
I was originally on the Provera progesterone every night but I can't take that much progesterone, it made me beyond anxious and downright suicidal, so when I changed to Utrogestan I decided that even though I am post meno I would not take it continuously but on a cycle. (In fact whilst changing I went 6 weeks without any progesterone and I felt better without it but you can't not take it at all!) I felt I could handle a bleed better than the problems continuous progesterone was causing. I am currently into month 2 of the new regime and I still have problems with 12 days of Utrogestan - I fall down a big black depression hole, however the anxiety has gone since I upped the oestrogel, no flushes, no sore breasts and went to prog cycle instead of continuous. I have never had any spotting. I have one more month to do before a review but have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of women on this forum and elsewhere that use a short cycle of progesterone of 7 days, and I even know of shorter.
There are even some women who use their oestrogen for up to 6 weeks before they do a 12 day cycle of progesterone. It is much disputed in the community, consultants and GP's about the safety on this but there are some eminent menopause people out there that use these methods on progesterone intolerant people quite safely and long term and there are women on here. Often those people get regular scans to ensure that the womb lining is not thickening. I know I have problems with progesterone, so although post meno when I have my review I will be pressing to start a 7 day progesterone cycle to see if I can manage that with a reserve plan of the 6 week/12 day lengthening of cycle as plan B.
I am 56 and haven't felt myself for years but so much worse during the meno so I am attempting to get the right cycle for me by a process of trial and error and to be honest I trust many of the ladies stories posted here far more than any GP or consultant because they are real people with real ongoing problems who have tried loads of things, some very successfully. I don't have any qualms about the amount of HRT I have to take, just like you I just want to feel "more myself". My view is somethings I try might make me feel worse but at least I know what NOT to do! and then I can work on other plans that just might work.
You could try upping the oestrogel because you can always decrease it if it causes problems, thats why I like oestrogel - its so flexible but if you do you must balance it with enough Utrogestan by whatever method you can tolerate most. (you might not know what that is yet!)