I think we have got closer, and now I tell him everything, about everything,
and if he doesn't like it, he'll tell me so, and we'll work something out together, because at the end of the day, I don't want to upset him, I don't want to go against him, I'd rather him be on my side of the fence, but now I think because I opened up to him, I've got more to say, he listens to me, and understands.
Years ago, I think I just sailed through life, not really having an opinion on anything, was only interested in my family being happy, and their well being, now everything's changed, the kids have grown up, I'm not so preoccupied with bringing them up, and obviously I'm older, he's older, and life changes, and it's only now, when I think back, all the secrets I'd kept hidden, maybe as well, because I was focused on other things, I subconsciously swept them back to the back of my mind, and they only surfaced when the balance tipped.
We joke, we laff (now,again, I'm feeling better.) and I know, that if I've got anything to say to him, or him me, we say it.....no secrets, (maybe little ones) that don't really matter anyway , in the big scheme of things....
So, in that respect , and it's really the only one, meno done me a big favour.
Every relationship is different, and I know it's very hard for some people to share their secrets, but for me, I had too..and gladly, it worked....
I've now learned, just like CLKD, to keep some people at arms length, and not to be so ‘inviting ‘. As it were, that's my coping mechanism. I've learned a lot, and I've hurt a lot,
so now, as CLKD put it, I'm gonna take time to smell the roses.....(I love that. Lol)