my Dad has been dead 12 years. I have always cleaned his headstone, put flowers or plants on and stripped down and retreated his memorial bench every summer which is beside his grave. in all those years only my niece has ever put flowers on his grave aside from me and Mum.
In October a small arrangement appeared on it and I checked with the rest of the family and none of them put it on. I was gobsmacked as never, ever has anything been left there. I left it where it was and at beginning of Dec I bought a special artificial Xmas arrangement made to fit the “hole†on top of the grave. I figured a good frost would kill fresh flowers or plants and every other year I have put a wreath on. The “mystery†arrangement was past its best so I removed it.
Today Hubby and I went and my special arrangement has gone and is replaced with a small plant of some sort. I am cross and upset. I suspect it is my brother and his crazy wife but heaven knows why after 12 years they have started visiting the grave. They only live about 4 miles away.
Regulars may remember that they stole lots of items and money from Mum's house when she had to go into care and we have never spoken since. They have not visited poor Mum for over 3 years and don't send her birthday or xmas cards etc.
My other brother is convinced it's them too and says I should not do anything (I was going to put a notice on the grave) as he reckons they will get their comeuppance. I felt inclined to remove their plant too but my hubby said I will just drag myself down to their level if I do that but I am cross that they removed my arrangement which would have lasted all winter. It came from a garden centre and we spent ages choosing it.
What do you ladies think?
